The article speaks for itself. Just another case of religious leaders using their authority and the gullibility of their carefully chosen congregation to molest and rape children and get away with it. Read through to the end to see what I’m saying:
Prosecuters: Jailed evangelist “married” girls
By JON GAMBRELL, Associated Press Writer Jon Gambrell, Associated Press Writer – 1 min ago
TEXARKANA, Ark. – Jailed evangelist Tony Alamo “married” the underage girls he allegedly forced into sex, exchanging wedding vows and rings, prosecutors said.
Prosecutors made the claim as lawyers met Friday with U.S. District Judge Harry F. Barnes about Alamo’s trial, slated to begin next week. The trial, scheduled to last two weeks, will put Alamo’s lawyers in a delicate position of trying to tear into the credibility of the evangelist’s alleged victims on the stand while trying to not alienate jurors in the conservative southwestern Arkansas town.
“We’re looking forward to the trial and looking forward to vindicating Mr. Alamo,” defense lawyer Don Ervin told The Associated Press Friday. “His spirits are high and he is strong and he is ready to go to trial.”
Alamo, 74, has pleaded not guilty to the 10-count federal indictment. FBI agents and Arkansas State Police troopers raided Alamo’s 15-acre complex in Fouke on Sept. 20, searching for evidence of child pornography. Agents arrested the evangelist five days later in Flagstaff, Ariz.
In the closed-door hearing in Barnes’ chambers, lawyers argued over a series of defense motions seeking to limit what prosecutors can use at trial. Meeting minutes filed by a court clerk show Barnes dismissed the majority of the defense requests seeking to name FBI informants, suppress evidence found during the Fouke search and offer other records.
However, Barnes granted portions of defense lawyers’ request to stop prosecutors from offering jurors Alamo’s criminal record and using words like “polygamy,” “cult” and “compound” at trial. Barnes did not immediately issue a written order Friday clarifying what portions of the defense request he had granted.
Ervin said Barnes would address motions in the case again Monday, when a pool of jurors from across western Arkansas will come to Texarkana for jury selection. Court officials expect opening arguments in the case by Wednesday.
Late Thursday, prosecutors filed a motion to reject the defense request. In it, they alleged Alamo used the marriages and physical abuse to keep the girls under his control. Alamo also took girls with him to West Virginia and Memphis, Tenn., to have sex with while he prepared for a 1994 tax-evasion trial, prosecutors said.
Alamo served four years in federal prison after being convicted in that trial. Alamo took another underage girl across state lines for sex while still living at a halfway house in Texarkana, prosecutors said.
“It demonstrates that (Alamo’s) true motive in transporting the victims of this case across state lines at various times and in various ways, was not to merely have them available for ‘office work,’ but that would allow him to maintain his sexual relationship with each of them,” the prosecutors’ filing reads.
Prosecutors also said Alamo had sexual relationships with several different partners at a time and believed in polygamy, but stopped short of calling him a practicing polygamist. A previous defense lawyer for Alamo said the evangelist “spiritually” married and divorced multiple women who continued to live with him.
Ervin said “no” when asked Friday if Alamo practiced polygamy. He declined to discuss the prosecutors’ claims about Alamo exchanging wedding rings and vows with the alleged victims, saying that would be discussed at trial.
Since the Fouke raid, state child-welfare officials have seized 36 children associated with Alamo’s ministry. A separate lawsuit the ministry filed against the state claims the raid fractured Alamo’s ministry and sent many followers into hiding. Ervin said that hasn’t prevented Alamo’s defense team from finding witnesses to testify on his behalf.
“He is still their leader,” the lawyer said. “The last time I visited the ministry, it looked fine. There were dedicated members and the ministry seemed to be functioning very well.”
The evangelist remains held without bond pending trial.
In case you missed it, here it is again: “He is still their leader,” the lawyer said. “The last time I visited the ministry, it looked fine. There were dedicated members and the ministry seemed to be functioning very well.”
Apparently, it’s okay in societies such as this to rape children if you’re a religious leader …. or a celebrity, for that matter *coughmichaeljacksoncough*.
When I went after Wicca for its indestructible support of the Frosts and their guide to forcible incest and gang child rape, I said that if a group didn’t want to be seen as condoning child abuse, they had to stand against those within it who perpetrated the offenses. Either stand against it or be taken down along side it. Here, the case remains the same.
In the event the good Christians of this church have forgotten their bible study, allow a Pagan to refresh your memories:
“The wolf shall dwell with the lamb, and the leopard shall lie down with the young goat, and the calf and the lion and the fattened calf together; and a little child shall lead them.” -Isaiah 11:6
That our sons may be as plants grown up in their youth; that our daughters may be as corner stones, polished after the similitude of a palace. (Isaiah 44:12)
Take heed that ye despise not one of these little ones; for I say unto you, That in Heaven their angels do always behold the face of My Father which is in Heaven. (Matthew 18:10)
And whosoever shall offend one of these little ones that believe in Me, it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea. (Mark 9:24)
UPDATE: I was sent a link this morning to a blog featuring this article, and it is now apparent to me where the majority of the angry comments from Asatru folk and Odinists are originating. This blog ( http://kernelmag.dailydot.com/features/report/7582/revealed-the-secret-symbols-used-by-child-sex-offenders/# ) purposefully misrepresents the Valknut by stating: “The ‘Wiccan triple knot’ is a well-known paedophile call sign.” I have written to the Editor of the site and requested a retraction, removal of the image, or at the least a removal of any reference to my site. Please, feel free to send your complaints over this travesty to the Editor of that website: email@example.com . They do not allow comments on their website and request letters to the editor, instead. http://kernelmag.dailydot.com/comment-policy/
NOTICE: I regret that so many of my pagan brothers and sisters have been led to believe this post is for the purpose of attacking pagans. I’m disheartened that so many of you cannot read an article before being led as sheep to post ridiculous comments reflecting that lie. I will no longer approve argumentative comments to this thread, but you may read my answer to your questions and comment here: Addressing The Concerns Of Pagans .
I recently posted a comment left by a supposed self-proclaimed pedophile, in which he suggests my pedophile symbol collection is outdated by listing variants he and his ilk often use to fool the public. After posting the comment, I was asked for more information on the symbols. I have gone throughall of the posts I’ve madepreviously to gather the symbols and online codes into this one post for easy reference. Please, feel free to copy and paste the following anywhere and everywhere you feel it will do some good. PEDOPHILE SYMBOLS WE ALL RECOGNIZE: These images were discovered by undercover volunteers on a website created by online sexual predators, where they instruct young girls and children that sex with older men is natural and their parents are lying to them and cannot be trusted because they are possessive and don’t want their children to feel good. It has been speculated by some around the net in discussion about these symbols that these meanings and even existence of the symbols are untrue, but those statements have been made by pedophiles whose primary goal it is to corrupt exposed discoveries about them. These people have often used these symbols on their own websites, and the jewelry is no figment of the imagination!
- A heart within a heart, or “GLogo” “GirlLover” is used by pedophiles attracted to girls. The heart in a heart, to them, represents a adult/ female child relationship.
- A blue spiral-shaped triangle symbol, or “BLogo” “BoyLover”, symbolizes a boy (small triangle) surrounded by an older male (larger triangle)- and is meant to show adult/male child relationships.
- The butterfly CLogo a.k.a. “ChildLover” (commonly looks like four touching hearts) in pink/blue represents non-preferential gender pedophiles (girl or boy attracted, often both).
- The yin-yang looking circle is CGlogo, used in reference to the website, Common Ground, which was created as a place for both girl and boy attracted pedophiles to meet and sympathize with each other.
- The pink/blue triangles is “AmaroSymbol” is a variation of the CGLogo.
Recently, I received a comment from a suspected pedophile bragging about the newest additions to their collections. These logos were not created by them but are already in place as innocent designs for unrelated issues. The purpose for using these common images is to fool society into not thinking twice when seeing someone wearing these items. In the words of the person who commented to me:
We do not adhere strictly to the shapes you posted. We can modify them slightly and still recognize other girl and boy lovers. I am sure you have seen the new necklace designed by Jane Seymour. You probably have a pendant of your own. The ladies like them. So do little girls and little girl lovers. When asked about mine and why I wear a bit of woman’s jewelry, I say it is a reminder of my dead wife and child. Don’t you know, people don’t like talking to widowers because it is a sore subject. They would rather change the subject fast, and so I escape further prying into my necklace that signals other girl lovers that I am a GL. For my BL attraction, I don the wiccan triple knot. I know too of GLs who use the Roxy surfer girl heart logo and BLs who use the pagan vaulknot. These are both variations of the GL heart logo and the BL triangle logo but the public will never know the difference.
The items to which he is referring:
Jane Seymore’s Wiccan Triple knot Roxy Surfer Girl Valknot necklace Additionally, I recently posted remarks by pedos on a pedophile site in regards to the attire they wear to celebrate Alice Day and the lighting of pink candles: (clicking on the names will direct you to the exact quotes in their full spirit, including information about how they promote their deviances)
FreeThinkerGL I will be wearing my GLogo t-shirt with my GLogo pendent for all to see!!!. I guess I will be doing what I do everyday, just hangout with friends and maybe if it’s nice out, skateboard a bit etc. I don’t have a LGF so I won’t be spending anytime with little girls or boys but I will go to the park and LG watch. I also try to do a bit of CL activism on Alice Day or any day for that matter, in the sense that every time I see an opportunity I drop off a few pamphlets, flyers and cards that I always carry around in my backpack……My suggestion to you or to anybody who reads this post is to celebrate Alice Day by lighting a pink candle in you’re home or in public with a small note attached explaining what this holiday is about and what it means to be a girl lover. silentmist I will be spending the day at a local market filled with beautiful LG’s. Kinda boring, but I will at least be wearing a pink t-shirt. I doubt anyone will catch on, but you never know 😉 lall I think the t-shirt thing is just to wear any kind of a pink shirt on Alice Day. That way if any asks if you’re a pedo, you can claim you have no idea what they’re talking about…and how dare they insinuate such a thing! lol.
Pedobear is said to have originally begun as a way for young members of chan sites (4chan, 7chan, 12chan…) to call attention to pedophiles in their midst pretending to be kids to get their information. The pedophiles have since adopted Pedobear as their symbol of pride on the chan sites, claiming that the invention of the bear is a “loving gesture” toward them. There are also abbreviations you should be aware of. The intention is to classify their interests for other pedophiles within their ring:
- AoA: Short for “age of attraction” meaning the age groups of children they are attracted to
- MAA: Minor attracted adult (used in reverse of the word “pedophile”, though it is the same and places the child as responsible for the abuse)
- AoC: Age of (legal) consent
- CL: ChildLover/pedophile
- GL: Girl Lover/Attracted to girls
- BL: BoyLover/Attracted to boys
- YF: Young Friend, used when speaking about a victim
- CP: Child Porn (Which could mean anything from photos of naked or half-naked children to photos of actual child rape/torture)
- LG: Little Girl
- LB: Little Boy
- GM: Girl Moment – which is time spent with a young girl (that can either be a passing second consisting of nothing more than a glance or a smile, or a lengthy visit with a girl);
- BM: Boy Moment – same as Girl Moment
Then there are the chats, or message boards:
- CG: known as Common Ground, a place for pedophiles of both preferences. Common ground, while being the one that touts of being for “all” pedophiles is less used than either of the other forums:
- GC: GirlChat- for those that favor victimizing girls
- BC: BoyChat- for those that favor victimizing boys
and Pedophile Organizations:
- NAMBLA: North American Man/Boy Love Association
- IBLD: International Boy Love Day – this is an actual Pedophile Holiday celebrated by them on June 23 of each year.
- Newgon: Pedophile version of Wikipedia
- CLOMA: Child Love Online Media Activism
If there is any further information I may have missed, I will add it as soon as possible. Keep an eye on the comments section in the event someone has something vital to add (and feel free if you have something I missed, please!). The main message of the commenter, and all pedophiles, was that no one cares about abused children because society refuses to speak of it or even acknowledge that. I believe it is damned time to change that, and I have something in mind to deal with it, which I will be posting about soon. Be prepared to stand with me. Never forget: In the fight against child sexual abuse, there are only two sides – For or Against. Those fighting “For” are pulling no punches. Can those “Against” say the same?
Pedophiles and child rapists will tell you they did it because they “loved” the child, that the child “wanted” it, that the child “flirted” with them, that it isn’t rape but “making love.” And you know what? Society buys that garbage and allows them chance after chance to continue raping and molesting – all in the name of “compassion.” Compassion for the “illness” of the abuser and none for the victims.
On my site, you’ve heard the POV of victims and survivors, of child advocate volunteers, and from law enforcement, itself. Here is a look into child rape from the point of view of a medical employee called to testify about what he witnessed on a call to help a 5 year old rape victim of her father.
Please, do not comment here. Go to this great man’s blog and show your support there. We need more paramedics, doctors, nurses, and other medical professionals speaking up as he has. It is time for society to stop pretending it isn’t as frequent or as bad as advocates state.
July 2, 2oo9
Her name was Molly.*
Doing what I’m about to do is the direct result of something wholly terrible, yet I’m thankful for the chance to be here, because I can help right a wrong, after a fashion.
For now, though, I’m just breathing. No words come to my lips, no emotion on my face. I’m focused, singly, on a slow controlled inhale, and a slow, controlled exhale. My partner is next to me, and she knows me well enough to read the thoughts behind the look on my face. She’s also experienced enough to know that right now, I don’t want to talk, I don’t want her to talk, and if anyone asks me “You doin’ OK, JB?” I’m going to knock their teeth out. Her job, at this moment, is to just be here. That’s why she’s the best partner I’ve ever had as a medic.
I glance at the door, beyond which sits a monster.
He doesn’t look like a monster, of course. The real monsters never do. They look like normal folks. Some tall, some short. Full hair and balding. Square jaw, rounded face. Eyes set narrow to the sun, or thick Coke-bottle eyeglasses. “Just a regular man,” you’d hear.
Except he was no man. He was a monster.
I don’t want to look at him, yet as your eyes are drawn to a car wreck on the other side of the highway, mine will be drawn to his face. This guy is as regular as regular gets. He’s a touch beyond 200 pounds, and tissue that was once muscle has turned soft, the result of too many beers and frozen dinners in front of a T.V. His head sets squarely on his shoulders, though if he had any decency, he’d hang it in shame. The shoulders are broad, and exude a relaxed confidence, as if he knows what’s coming and knows he can weather the storm. A Timex on his right wrist — he’s a lefty, apparently — marks time, and his back is straight. He’s crossed his feet as he sits, relaxed.
Inhale, JB. Now exhale. Repeat.
Yeah, relaxed. After what this monster did, he’s relaxing. He’s relaxed, and I’m a mess of emotions: Anger, grief, curiosity, and perplexity.
And rage. Pure, untempered, primal rage. I want to face him with that rage. To ask him the questions that have burned into my soul since the first moment the dispatch said “Medic 9, Child injured, PD en route as well, RP states father of child is the suspect.”
“You think you got enough salt to try that with me? Go ahead…. do to me what you did to her.
“Go ahead. Try to hold me down and force your fat, smelly, drunk-ass body on me, with your pencil dick and smelly breath. Try to touch me in spots that I don’t want you to touch. Try it. Go ahead, try. I dare you. Nay, I BEG you to try that with me.
“She was 5 years old, and might have weighed 40 pounds. She called you Daddy. A daddy wouldn’t have done this to his little girl. A father would have given his own life to prevent this from happening to his little girl. You’re no daddy, you’re no father. You’re a piece of shit.
“I’m not that small, and I prefer a slightly different term for you than ‘Daddy.’ Go ahead… try that with me. Let’s skip all the rest of this bullshit dog and pony show and get this over with. Don’t bother looking at the cops, they won’t help you. That, I promise. Let’s do this… you, me, and last man breathing walks out of here a free man. Please. Try me.”
That’s what I want to say. That’s what my face, my eyes, and my body language say. But it’s not what my mouth says. I want to say it, but I don’t. I just breathe.
Having processed all these thoughts in the two seconds it took me to open the door and enter the room and glance at him, I remember that, despite my rage, despite my anger, despite my visceral desire to exact some revenge for Molly, am a professional and I have a professional duty to do my job. I take that first step to do what I have to do.
The cop reaches toward me, holding a book, and asks me:
“Do you solemnly swear that the testimony you will give to this court will be the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, so help you God?”
I give the monster one last glance: OK, pal, let’s see you worm your way out of this one…You should have taken your chances with me, because Ordinary Decent Criminals in prison don’t care much for child molesters. Have fun in there, and I hope you rot in hell.
(*Name changed for the obvious reasons.)
I was recently left a comment by someone claiming to be a pedophile. I battled with myself whether or not I should post this because I wasn’t certain of the agenda behind the comment, if the person is a factual pedophile or someone just trying to get a rise out of me and other anti-child abuse activists.
I have exhausted my brain looking at this comment from every angle. I decided this morning after much personal deliberation and wise council from others in this field to post it because the message is here, regardless of the intent of the poster. I believe it is a clear cut example of just how little paranoia is in play during our assessments, and just how on the mark we are with the deviousness we warn people of what we fight every day.
It is in the best interested of all those who see us as paranoid, who believe we over-exaggerate, and of parents who don’t believe it’s really “that serious” to read this comment well and never forget the words.
My response to this piece of garbage follows:
Dear SMP – Your site is very informative and thorough. You have done your research. My favorites are the blogs about symbols and the car decals. I say my favorites because I laughed until my stomach hurt. You are asking yourself why. Because dearheart you think people care and pay that much attention. Because dearheart you think you and the antis can really stop us. Because dearheart you think parents really pay that much attention and society gives a hoot about your so called awareness. We both know you’re right. What do you do when no one cares, though? Do names of children on cars help me find my next little friend? Names on cars help me put a name to the child I photograph and masturbate to for weeks to cum. Names and school stickers and sports decals help me to find that child again for newer photographs. Who knows? If the fantasy becomes a favorite, I may decide to make the encounter real, and because mom and dad gave me all the information I need to find Jenny or Johnny, I know that if I want to make fantasy become reality, it will be easy as pie. I know I won’t have to try hard like I might with the other kids I photograph. I keep these kids in a special folder marked “someday.” Grooming you and your friends talk about is the next step but you don’t mention that it’s the most entertaining. We are masters at the game and when we win it makes the lovemaking with our new little lover sweeter. Where did you find the information on the symbols? I am impressed at how thorough you were but you didn’t mention that we have our symbols in places people use every day. We do not adhere strictly to the shapes you posted. We can modify them slightly and still recognize other girl and boy lovers. I am sure you have seen the new necklace designed by Jane Seymour. You probably have a pendant of your own. The ladies like them. So do little girls and little girl lovers. When asked about mine and why I wear a bit of woman’s jewelry, I say it is a reminder of my dead wife and child. Don’t you know, people don’t like talking to widowers because it is a sore subject. They would rather change the subject fast, and so I escape further prying into my necklace that signals other girl lovers that I am a GL. For my BL attraction, I don the wiccan triple knot. I know too of GLs who use the Roxy surfer girl heart logo and BLs who use the pagan vaulknot. These are both variations of the GL heart logo and the BL triangle logo but the public will never know the difference. See dearheart you and your firends will never make a difference. We are everwhere. We use everything. For every one child you claim to “save” we add another 100 to our list. You should join Peta where your work will have more value. People care about abused animals. They don’t care abut abused kids. Haven’t you figured that out by now? If people cared you would hear about it on the news and in movies. You would see it in papers. You would hear it on the radio. Your biker friends don’t do any good with their little show that only a few people listen to. Your Absolute zero friends only piss and moan, maybe take credit for some pedophiles they expose but they are only thinning out the herd. If they are a weak link, they deserve to be caught. It exposes those among us who cannot be trusted and depended on. Antis make it so easy for us. Society makes it even easier. The more you antis cry about sex with minors, the quicker society turns away from you. Nobody wants to hear that shit. They want to know about celebrity gossip and the ozone layer and how Obama is going to save us from our own stupidity. You posted about Obama’s choice for deputy attorney general. That didn’t tell you t hat you are in a losing battle? Our own president doesn’t see anything wrong with child love. He picked our defender to control the rules you antis want enforced to cram your morals down peoples throats because he knows you’re ignorant and behind the times. People are coming to our side by the thousands. People make fun of Chris Hansen and his catch a predator series because sex with children is acceptibale and idiots like Hansen and you are thinking in the past. Everybody wishes they could have expereinced love the way we give it to children. Admit it. You fantasize about being a virgin again. All women do. It’s in all of the romance novels. You fantacize about being a virgin and being taken by older, stronger men. The heroine struggles at first but when its over she loves him and is devoted to him. There are no virgins over 13 anymore, so our AOA has to go lower every year. Some do it for virginity. Others do it for the youthful body. I do it for both. If hair has begun but the body is still to my liking and it is a virgin, I help my little lover shave and encourage him or her to keep it smooth. More proof society accepts child love. Shaving the pubic area is reminiscent of pre-puberty. Men who enjoy women only when they shave are admitting to their attraction to pre-pubescent girls. Women, in kind, who prefer shaved men. All the more popular adult porn movies feature clean shaven stars. They shave their pubic area, their legs, their chests, their rear ends, their arms, their faces, their arm pits. They have no hair to speak of other than that on their head. This is pre-puberty and this is what people crave. I bet you are shaved and your husband prefers that. You are such a hypocrit. Your man wants a child in his bed and you give that to him. All you antis are child lovers who haven’t admitted it yet but you will. When you do and you act on it, please take pictures. You know where to find us. We’ll be waiting because we will never go away. Society won’t make us go away and there is nothing you can ever do to stop us.
Dear ILoveLGLB [LG = Little Girls, LB = Little Boys],
I’m not exactly certain of your full agenda, although mocking us and attempting to dissuade us from our efforts to destroy you is a given (scared much?). Perhaps you are a real pedophile, perhaps someone who has some beef with me.
I looked at your comment from every angle trying to determine if I should even acknowledge it, if it was real, and if I should report it as I do all pedophilic messages I receive. I, then, decided the best course of action, other than addressing your pitiful attempt at disheartening me, was to simply turn over to the FBI and your local law enforcement your comment along with your information gathered as soon as you visited my site (IP/ISP hiders only do so much – there is still the server and so forth). Let them sort it out. At the very least, your pedophilic references will award you a comfortable spot on their watchlist for years to come. Have fun with that.
I won’t say much about the things you said about children or me, as you’ve done yourself more damage than I could ever do by pointing out the obvious. I will simply address your over-inflated ego that has you believing there is nothing we can do to stop you and that I, actually, care more about you or myself over the safety of children.
Let me make it abundantly clear that I don’t give a fuck what you think you can do to me to stop me. I don’t care what people say about me, what people do to me, how many friends I have or don’t have.
I am the person who, if you try to physically hurt me should I speak up, can turn on you and slit your throat.
I am the person who, if you blackmail me, will broadcast whatever it is you think you have on me to the world and then expose every dirty little secret I know about you that you never knew I had.
I am the person who has called child protective services on her own family member.
I am the person who will throw away a 10 year friendship with no regrets to see a person I called best friend behind bars for abusing, or allowing to be abused, her children.
I am the person who will bring down an entire institution, whether I’ve supported it or not, as soon as I find out they have permitted or perpetrated child abuse or in any way child endangerment.
I am the person who would physically torture the man in her life if he ever touched her child in an inappropriate fashion.
I am the person who would not blink should every adult human on Earth cease to exist.
I am cold. I am steel. I am vigilant. I am the last person you ever want on your ass for hurting a child.
All I am here for on this Earth is to protect children.
When I was 5 and all of the other kids were sharing their “when I grow up” dreams of being policemen, nurses, doctors, teachers, etc.., my only desire was to be a guardian angel. Through grade school and high school, that secret wish never faded.
One can believe all of my suffering was fate’s way of preparing me for my chosen destiny. One can believe it was a God’s “gift” to make me the kind of guardian angel it would take to protect children from the likes of you. Whatever the answer, it matters not. The only thing that matters is that I am your worst fucking nightmare and I will NEVER go away.
Sue me, slander me, abuse me, threaten me, arrest me …. You cannot gag me. You cannot scare me. You cannot dishearten me. Mother fucker, you cannot stop me. It is my destiny. It is my calling and it is my passion. I will NEVER go away. Believe what you will about the afterlife, but neither heaven or hell, enlightenment or nothingness will even stop me. On the contrary, death awards no boundaries … and no rules.
In collaboration with Guru from B.A.C.A. Nation, I am posting this information on how pedophiles groom parents for access to their children. My source for this information and for all grooming information is Warriors For Innocence. Therefore, I cannot take credit for the research, but rather as a living example of how these tactics on parents and guardians work very well.
Our grooming information will begin with this look into how pedophiles and sexual predators groom parents and care givers of children. This post will be followed by more on how they groom their child victims. I will be using the posts from Warriors For Innocence as reference, and additionally, I will add my own thoughts and point of view as a survivor.
From Sues at Warriors For Innocence:
Pedophiles Groom Parents Too
We’ve told you before in our Grooming Articles that pedophiles not only groom their victims, but the parents and entire communities as well. […] here’s a recent letter posted by a well known pedophile who calls himself “Blue Heaven” (BH). It’s addressed to the parents of his “lgf” or ‘Little Girl Friend’.
[…] “I can only cheer from the sidelines and set a positive example for the kids when I can, but it is important to me to see them growing up right and I believe in what you’re doing. I know you have a great support system within your family already; just know I am more than willing to help out if ever I can.” […]
“I want you to know that I have always had the best intentions at heart, and I always will. I’ve become a protective older brother with her (sometimes over-protective), and I’ve become concerned about her success in life, I am also a real friend to her, and she’ll tell you the same things. In short she has become someone special to me and I enjoy helping her.” […] Translation: He’s sexually attracted to her and he wants her bad.
He then tries to explain why he wants to spend so much time alone with her. We of course know its because he sees her as a sexual object. But he is in the grooming mode and is attempting to charm her parents into letting him have her in his house ALONE with him and without her siblings around….
“I believe it is good for her to have one more person around to encourage her and I think sometimes she needs someone else to talk to. It’s also good for her to talk to an older friend (as in non-related) who has her best interests at heart.” […]
“I want to always keep things out in the open” […]
“I have told her that with your expressed permission she is welcome in my home. If you give the OK she may come over anytime to finish her homework, here where there are fewer distractions. I would make sure it gets completed and work with her should she need it. She is also welcomed to come over just to talk or if she just feels like getting out of the house.” […]
“I am not asking you for anything, I just want you to know that I’m very good to her and she is more than welcomed here.” … Translation: Don’t worry, I won’t hurt her much. At least not at first. Yes, I want to rape her, but I’ll wait and mess with her mind first. Then I’ll force her to believe that it’s something that she really wants. That way when she gets too old for me, I can walk away from her, and move on to my next victim.
We wrote about BH before. He was trying to find a way to gain public acceptance. He wanted to fool everyone into believing that he was a “good” pedophile…
“If we adopt a non-threatening approach, and stay within the law. Then maybe we can gain just a little credibility with the public. If we build on this new image: “CL [Child Lover] in defense of those they love”, then maybe we can begin a dialog…but as long as outing ourselves is societal suicide, then we can’t do anything anyway.”
– Blue Heaven
Don’t ever forget that pedophiles are child PREDATORS. They will attempt to manipulate everyone around them in order to gain access to their victims. Your job as parents and caregivers is to stop them. Don’t fall for their lies. Don’t let them lull you into a false sense of safety. Pedophiles are not safe. They do not care about the well being of children. All they care about is how to get their hands on their next victim.
How do you stop a child predator? Go to our grooming articles and get some really good info here.
The most frightening part about this is that the letter sounds very innocent. It sounds as if he sees it as only a simple friendship and everything is open and honest, even writing a letter as proof for the parents own security (they have his request in writing should he do anything bad). If those who have investigated Blue Heaven, like Sues, didn’t already know he was a pedophile, and if the letter didn’t appear on a pedophile website as an example of how to groom parents, there is no way of knowing that this is a clever way of gaining trust and acceptance of being alone with this little girl he is dying to rape.
Grooming of children, parents, guardians, even the child’s community can take place for several months before sexual abuse occurs. Here is an example of the mindset and instructions in abuse from one of the men Sues has investigated:
They plot and plan against the rest of the world to try to gain acceptance. They want to abolish the age of consent (AOC) for sex. One pedophile, “Golem”, talks in graphic detail about how he would have sex with an 8 year old, if it was legal, of course…
“It would take months of preperation to get, say, an 8 year old girl physically ready for full intercourse with an adult man. Months of streching excersises, sexual aclimitizing(to make her more comfortable with her girl parts, so she doesn’t get nervous, and tense up during, possibly causing injury), and practice sessions. ….She would have to be masturbated by her partner with fingers or objects inside of her most every day. …there’s no danger in intercourse with a girl of 8, or even an average sized girl of 6”
If they are so good at grooming parents, how, then, can we ever hope to beat them at their game?
Simple: Be a PARENT! If you’re a parent behaving like a parent, grooming isn’t easy at all and won’t work!
Common sense dictates to most of us that children do not belong in the homes of men alone. Good parents don’t even allow their children (under 16) in homes with kids their own age alone, or to stay in their own home alone – it’s even illegal to do so (under 13 in some states).
I recently posted about women who abuse, so although men pose a greater threat, you shouldn’t be too free with the trust in women who want to spend extra amounts of time with your child, either. Adults hang out with other adults, NOT children. It is a serious red flag when an adult only likes the company of small children. Adults who hang out with other adults on a regular basis abuse, too, but you can’t get any more obvious than adults who constantly choose to mingle among children.
Protecting our children is simpler than pedophiles want you to know, and not as difficult as lazy parents make it out to be.
I know every single thing that my parents could have done to keep me from being abused and put into dangerous situations.
1. My mom left me alone in the car while she shopped.
On one occasion, two men tried to get me out to take me: One man went inside to distract my mom while the other one tried to coax me out with candy. I had heard them talking to each other near the closed window about how to get me out, picking which one would go inside and which one would grab me and hold me down in the backseat of their car while the other one came out of the store to quickly drive away.
Overhearing their conversation was one reason I didn’t open the door, but even if I hadn’t heard their conversation, I wouldn’t because I was afraid of everyone at this point in my life due to the neglect and abuse in my family.
Had my mom not left me in the car alone, I never would have gone through this. Had I been a trusting child, I would have opened the door and never been heard from again.
2. My parents preached that adults are always right and children are always wrong if there was a choice to be made.
Adults deserved respect no matter who they were, and it was never okay to back talk an adult or refuse to do what an adult said. Although I knew the abuse I suffered from adults was wrong and I had the rebellious sense to know my parents were stupid, the blockers set into my brain by those hard driven lessons of acceptable adult dominance made it impossible for me to fight back when I wanted to. My own parents, therefore, groomed me for my abusers.
3. When I came forward with my abuse to my parents, they ignored me and made me feel like it was my fault and my shame.
The pedophiles in my neighborhood knew my parents would behave this way, and they used this in their threats: “Your parents will never believe you…. Your parents will blame you because you weren’t allowed down the street…. Your mother is too uptight to talk about this, so she won’t listen to you…. Your father is always at work and he thinks his other two daughters are tramps and asked for what they got (kidnapping, rape, domestic violence, forced prostitution…)…..”
And because my parents were like this, the pedophiles chose me and other girls on my street with parents like mine as their easy prey. There were 5 of us and we never spoke of it, but we all shared a fear of the same men, which spoke volumes without speaking a word.
4. My siblings were allowed to continue their physical and emotional abuse on me because I was never paid attention to by my parents or any other adult.
They never noticed the bruises and never wanted to hear it when I would try to show them. Each of my siblings tried to kill me in some way, one succeeding when she had me hit by a car. Every time, my siblings had an excuse and my parents let it go, ignoring the warning signs all around them.
Even my teachers ignored it and they saw the clear signs of home abuse that is taught to them to recognize. Neighbors knew it but this was a neighborhood made up of older middle aged catholics who believed in minding your own business, even if it was a child asking for help.
Therefore, predators watching me knew no one would ever notice my abuse, or care if I came forward.
5. I was the 5th child born to a mother who had been through several bouts with depression and psychotic breaks.
She wanted a living baby doll, so she had me. The other four were much older, the oldest being 20 years older than me and the youngest being 10 years older than me.
I never should have been borne to this woman. The doctors tried to get her to abort me. My father refused to allow it because it was a mortal sin by the Vatican’s laws. I wished all my life that I had been aborted. I was unwanted after the new baby luster wore off, and so was forgotten by both of my parents and allowed to become the toy of my siblings and anyone else who fancied a turn with me.
No one deserves a life like that and I seriously doubt any God worth worshipping would prefer that life for a child over a quick death before birth.
If the neglect didn’t let me know I wasn’t wanted, the miscarriage a year or so after my birth did as soon as I found out. It was around the time she started ignoring my needs, when I wasn’t “fun” anymore. I wished I could have had that little brother, but I was grateful later in life that he didn’t live to go through what I did. I even started to envy him.
Neglect led to every bit of my abuse as a child, and the apathy of my parents led to more abuse as I grew older and the emotional and mental difficulties I have suffered because of their mistreatment. It wasn’t at all difficult for predators to groom my parents, whether those predators were after me or after one of my other siblings. The unconscious grooming of me by my own parents set me up before I even walked out my front door. After that, it was easy for pedophiles to coax my parents into having “alone time” with me, even when I begged my parents not to.
So, how easy is it to keep yourself and your children from being groomed by pedophiles?
1. Love your child. I’m being serious. Just because you say you love your child, your actions will tell pedophiles if you actually love them enough to do what it takes to keep them safe and teach them well.
2. Have an open relationship with your child in which he/she knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that they can come to you about anything and you will talk with them about it or help them with their problems and fears.
3. When your child comes to you and expresses concern over someone, LISTEN! Take it seriously because each time you brush it off and tell them to get over it or deal with it, you are adding more cement to the barrier inside their mind that will keep them from talking about their abuse later and even from fighting back. Why say anything to anyone when they will be seen as tattle tales, whiners, complainers? Why tell and why fight when mom and dad don’t even care and won’t protect them?
4. Make sure your child has no doubt that you will protect them from anyone trying to hurt them. Don’t make this backfire, though. Children don’t like seeing others hurt, so avoid telling your child you’ll kill anyone who hurts them. They don’t want to be responsible for someone else suffering and they don’t want to be the reason their parent goes to prison for murder. Don’t forget, they watch TV. I tell my daughter that if anyone ever hurt her, I would make certain the police know all about it and the person will never be able to hurt her or any other child again. She likes the police, knows the police help kids, and would never want to see a kid hurt.
5. Don’t instill fear in your children of every adult, especially law enforcement. We’ve all received tickets at some point, and we may not like all the laws. To speak ill of police in front of our children is to show them A. you have no respect for police, the very people who put away child abusers, B. you make them afraid of going to the police when someone hurts them, and C. you strip them of the hope they have that there are adults with the authority to stop their abuse and keep them safe.
Equally, by making your child afraid of every adult by over-dramatizing crime in our world, you, also, make them afraid of the very people who may be able to stand in the way of a predator seeking them out. You need to let your child know that not all people can be trusted and that there are bad people who want to do them harm. In the same breath, you have to reassure them that there are adults who will do anything it takes to keep children safe from anyone wanting to do them harm. Introduce them to people who will protect them and make them feel safe. Show them the good people in the community as you show them the bad. Keep them vigilant but serene.
6. Set boundaries and discipline. This doesn’t mean corporal punishment. It means you set the rules and you enforce them. Let them see you as an authority figure who is capable of domineering the person who may try to dominate them. You are their guardian. From the time they are born, you become their guardian. It is a responsibility you took on when you chose to have that child, so don’t shirk your duty to this helpless little person looking up to you to guide them in life and protect them from bad people.
- Children do not belong in the streets alone.
- Children do not belong in an adults home without you.
- Little girls do not need to be dressed up like teenage rock stars, with make up and mini skirts and a come-hither look they don’t even understand (pedophiles later tell little girls like this it was their fault and use the defense that the child “wanted it” and was “sexually ready” because of the clothes and behavior mommy and daddy allowed).
- Little boys do not need to be raised to believe sex is a joke (it instills embarrassment when they are sexually abused, resulting in fewer boys coming forward than there actually are, leading to further abuse as an adult).
- Children have the right to be taught drugs are bad, regardless of mom or dad’s “habit” (one way abusers get their little victim to comply is by coaxing them to take drugs).
- Children have the right to be taught alcohol is for grown ups only, that alcohol will hurt children and make it easy for them to be hurt (sexual predators use the temptation of alcohol on children who see their parents drink but aren’t allowed any. They also use to their advantage children who are allowed to drink, “Your mom/dad lets you drink, so it’s okay …. [and later after the assault] It’s your fault for drinking and mom and dad won’t be mad at me because they let you drink, too.”).
Children deserve RULES. They deserve LIMITS. They deserve to remain children for as long as they can. We don’t have the right to make them grow up, and we don’t have the right to make them feel being a child is a bad thing. Again, it is a parents responsibliity as guardian to let them stay children for as long as nature has ruled it to be, keeping them safe from people and elements who would take all that away.
7. A parent’s responsibility is to their child above all else. No thing and no one is ever going to be more important or have more say than a child in a parent’s life. Once this is established in the home and in the mind of your child, passing predators will get the message and move on.