Internet Predators And The Games They Play
(This post is part of a 2-Part special post on internet safety. Part 1 is above.)
We’ve all seen them. Maybe even received an invitation to participate. I am posting this article to expose them for what they are: Questionnaires for Sexual Predators. No matter who composed the games, online predators are reading kids’ answers and making note of them to find the right victims to harass, stalk, and someday assault.
Kids think they are having fun, sharing about themselves with people their own age just looking for a creative outlet and a place to find a cool friend. The truth of the matter is that this “friend” may actually be a sexual predator.
He has composed the best list of questions to find out the age of his intended target, the name, where they live, and how best to convince them he can be trusted through similar interests.
He has already made a lot of kids believe he is their age by using their language and posting images he stole from another kid’s photo hosting site, or maybe images of his child or niece, nephew, next door neighbor.
Now, he has a whole friends list full of children who believe he is also a child. He posts his “Tagging game” with what his friends believe to be honest answers. Then, he tags his friends. He will first tag the ones he is really interested in, but not too many. He knows the others will follow suit and play the game, or eventually get tagged with his game, themselves. All he has to do is sit back, wait and let his first few victims do the stalking for him.
Once he has what he needs, he will not just use this information for himself. He will pass on this information to other sexual predators so they can find these children, as well.
See, sexual predators don’t work alone. They have a network. They have “rings” of hundreds online and out in the walking world.
There are those members who will scout out the best places to find vulnerable children to take and molest, and pass on the lists of these places to pedophiles in the area.
There are members who visit playgrounds, parks, and school functions and take photographs of children to pass along to other pedophiles and sexual predators.
I have even seen a network where the man acts as a finder. He will take the images, post them on his site, and other pedophiles will tell him who they are interested in. He will either pass along or sell the information to them – like where the image was taken, if the child had any brothers or sisters, if the parents are observant or did they leave their child unattended, and in many cases, the photographer has the home address to give or sell the predator.
Tagging games make all of this much simpler. No work needed for a scout. All he has to do is pretend to be a child playing a game.
I have seen an alarming number of children give out all of their personal information to not only the person who tagged them, but also the entire internet to see. These kids don’t seem to have ever been taught not to give the entire world their full name, address, telephone number, parents’ names, so on and so forth. If someone online asks for this information, they are up to no good. Count on it!
Below are actual games I copied several months ago from a few different sites. Mind you, not every question is sinister but are meant to make the game seem innocent.
TAG GAME 1:
1. Whats your full name?
2. Whats your age?
3. Height and weight, if known.
4. What is your species?
5. Do you believe in love?
6. Who do you love?
7. Name your best buddies.
8. At what date you were born?
9. Favorite Movies.
10. Do you consider yourself a sexy or cute person?
11. How would you describe yourself?(in a physical and psychological matter?)
12. Who do you hate?
13. What do you hate?
14. Do you think fashion is important in your life?
15. Where do you live?
16. What are your hobbies?
17. Tell us some secret that you have.
18. Favorite Foods.
19. Random Question. Do you think Spam tastes like human flesh?
20. Why did you take this quiz?
TAG GAME 2:
1. YOUR REAL NAME:
2. YOUR GANGSTA NAME: (first 3 letters of real name plus izzle.)
3. YOUR DETECTIVE NAME: (fav color and fav animal)
4. YOUR SOAP OPERA NAME: (middle name, and current street)
5. YOUR STAR WARS NAME: (the first 3 letters of your last name, first 2 letters of your first name, first 3 letters of mom’s maiden name)
6. YOUR SUPERHERO NAME: (2nd favorite color, favorite drink).
7. YOUR IRAQI NAME: (2nd letter of your first name, 3rd letter of your last name, any letter of your middle name, 2nd letter of your moms maiden name, 3rd letter of you dads middle name, 1st letter of a siblings first name, last letter of your moms middle name)
8. YOUR WITNESS PROTECTION NAME: (mothers middle name and fathers name.)
9. YOUR GOTH NAME: (black, and the name of one your pets)
TAGGING GAME 3:
1) Full name:
3) Were you named after anyone?
4) Does your name mean anything?
6) What do you think you look like… name wise:
7) Date of birth:
8 ) Place of birth and current location:
10) Astrological sign:
11) Chinese astrology sign:
13) What’s your favorite smell?
14) Political Position:
15) What do you prefer to drink in the morning:
16) Hair + eye color:
17) Do you look like anyone famous:
18) What do you look like?
19) Any unusual talents?:
20) Righty, lefty, or ambidextrous?:
21) Gay, straight, bi, or other?:
22) What do you do for a living?:
23) What do you do for fun?:
24) What are your favourite art materials to work with?:
25) What kind of materials would you like to work with?:
26) Have you met your grandparents?:
29) What celebrity would you date if you could?:
30) Current worries?:
31) Favourite online guy/girl(s):
32) Favourite place to be?:
33) Least favorite place to be?:
34) Do you burn or tan?:
35) Ever break a bone?:
36) What is your favourite cereal?:
37) Person you cry with:
Do you have…
38) Any sisters:
39) Any brothers:
40) Any pets:
41) An illness:
42) A pager:
43) A personal phone line:
44) A cell phone:
45) A visible birthmark:
46) A pool or hot tub:
47) A car:
50) Your clothing style:
52) What’s missing:
55) Relationship with your parent(s):
56) Do you believe in yourself?:
57) Do you believe in love at first sight?:
58) Consider yourself a good listener?:
59) Have a future dream that you would like to share?:
60) Get along with your parents?:
61) Save your e-mail conversations?:
63) Believe in reincarnation?:
64) Brush your teeth twice a day?:
65) Like to talk on the phone?:
66) Like to eat?:
67) Like to exercise?:
68) Like to watch sports?:
69) Sing in the car?:
70) What is a dream that you have all the time?:
71) Dream in colour?:
72) Do you have nightmares?:
73) Sleep with a stuffed animal?:
74) What’s right next to you?:
75) What’s on your favourite mug?:
76) What’s on your mouse pad?:
77) Your favourite flavour of gum:
78) Your brand of deodorant:
79) Your dream honeymoon spot:
80) Your dream husband/wife:
81) What’s hiding in your closet?:
82) Under your bed:
83) The name of one of your closest/best friends:
84) Your bad time of the day:
85) Your worst fear(s):
86) What’s the weather like:
87) Your favourite time of year?:
88) Your favourite holiday?:
89) A material weakness?:
90) The weirdest food or drink that you like:
91) At the top of your “to-do list”?:
92) The hardest thing about growing up:
93) A pet peeve?:
94) Your scariest moment:
95) Your attitude about love?:
96) The funniest or most desperate thing you’ve done to get the attention of the opposite sex?:
97) The worst feeling in the world:
98) The best feeling in the world:
99) Who sent this to you?:
100) 3 people you tag:
TAGGING GAME 4:
LAST THING YOU…
Ate and drank:
Watched on TV:
Club or houseparty:
Tea or coffee:
Achiever or slacker:
Beer or cider:
Drinks or shots:
Cats or dogs:
Single or taken:
Pen or pencil:
Gloves or mittens:
Food or candy:
Cassette or cd:
Coke or Pepsi:
WHO DO YOU WANT TO…
Get really wasted with:
LAST PERSON YOU… AND WHEN?
WHERE DO YOU…
Wish you were:
HAVE YOU EVER…
Dated one of your best friends:
Loved somebody so much it makes you cry:
Broken the law:
Ran away from home:
Broken a bone:
Cheated on a test:
Played truth or dare:
Kissed someone you didn’t know:
Been on a talk/game show: nope
Been in a fight:
Ridden in a fire truck:
Been on a plane:
Come close to dying:
Cheated on your boy/girlfriend:
Gave someone a piggy back/shoulder ride:
Eaten a worm/mud pie:
Swam in the ocean:
Had a nightmare/dream that made you wake up:
The most embarrassing CD in your collection:
Your bedroom like?:
Your favorite thing for breakfast:
Your favorite thing for lunch:
Your favorite thing for dinner:
Your favorite Restaurant:
A Good Student:
Good At Sports:
Good At Wakeboarding/Snowboarding:
A Good Singer:
A good Actor/Actress:
A deep sleeper:
A Good Dancer:
A good stoyteller:
TAGGING GAME 5:
4. Place of Birth:
5. Zodiac Sign:
6. Male or Female:
8. Schools you went to:
11. Screen Names:
12. Hair Colour:
13. Hair Length:
14. Eye colour:
15. Best Feature:
21. Righty or Lefty:
22. First best friend:
23. First Award:
24. First Sport You Joined: :
25. First Pet:
26. First Real Vacation:
27. First Concert:
28. First Love:
30. TV Show:
34. Song Right Now:
37. Sport to Play:
39. Favorite brand to wear:
41. School Subject:
46. alcoholic beverage:
48b. article of clothing:
50b. video game:
46. Feeling: :
47. Single or Taken?:
53. Listening To:
54. Thinking About:
55. Wanting To:
58. Want Kids? :
59. Want to be Married:
60. Careers in Mind:
61. Where do you want to live?:
__Which is Better With The Opposite Sex___
63. Hair colour:
64. Hair length:
65. Eye colour:
67. Cute or Sexy:
68. Lips or Eyes:
69. Hugs or Kisses:
70. Short or Tall:
71. Easygoing or serious:
72. Romantic or Spontaneous:
74. Sensitive or Loud:
75. Hook-up or Relationship:
77. Trouble Maker or Hesitant One:
___Have you ever______
78. Kissed a Stranger:
79. Had Alcohol:
81. Ran Away From Home:
82. Broken a bone:
85. Broken Someones Heart:
86. Broken Up With Someone:
87. Cried When Someone Died:
88. Cried At School:
___Do You Believe In___
91. Love At First sight:
94. Soul Mates:
98. Kissing on The First Date:
100. Is there someone you want but you know you can’t have?
TAGGING GAME 6:
1. Sun or moon?:
2. Winter or Fall?:
3. Left or right?:
4. Sunny or rainy?:
6. Where do you live?: <——- (Right in the middle of innocent questions, so you’d answer without thought)
8. Do you want to get married?:
9. Do you twirl your spaghetti or cut it?:
10. Do You Cook?:
11. Current mood?:
TAGGING GAME 7:
(Note: This one is horribly wrong and serves several purposes for a predator: 1. Answers these questions: Is the target a prior victim?, Does the target have a problem with underage sex?, Is the target willing to lie to parents?, Can the target be easily coerced?; 2. Desensitizes or seeks to see how desensitized the target is to sex talk and violent sex, 3. Gets the target to talk about sex. There were a lot of morbid questions on this one. I won’t post all of them as I will not advertise this filth. Here are the parts that suggest rape or child abuse:
It begins like this:
“Just read the ‘offense’ and if you’ve done it, you owe that fine.
Keep going until you’ve read each ‘offense’ and added up your total fine.
Title your response ‘My Bar Tab is$……..’
You don’t have to confess your answers, just the amount of your fine.”
Had sex with someone under 21 and you are over 27 — $25
Been raped — $500
Have raped — $200
Had sex with some one under 16 — $300
Had someone come climb in your bedroom window for sex so your parents would not find out — $100
Slapped someone across the face while fucking them– $100
Fucked someone while they were crying– $300 ……”
By asking about breaking any laws or disobeying parents as most tagging games do, the predator is trying to find out of the child is someone willing to do things that won’t make their parents happy, willing to lie and protect bad people.
Of course, inquiring as to secret e-mails tells the predator if the child is good at keeping secrets and if the child likes sneaking around, has a devious personality that will make people not believe them should they ask for help, and has the ability to hide online activity from parents.
Tagging games can be fun. I’ve participated in them, myself. You cannot be ignorant, however, to the dangers on the internet.
Here are some general common sense rules to keep in mind when filling out anything or chatting with anyone online:
1. Never give out personal information on the Internet. Don’t share your real name, where you live, where you go to school or anything about your family. Not your birthday, place of birth, mother’s or father’s names, or pet’s name. In case of identity theft concerns, these are all security questions card companies ask to keep accounts safe from identity thieves. Such people will, also, prey on children. Not for sex but to get information the adults wouldn’t give that enables an identity thief access to financial accounts.
2. The person who claims he is a 13 year old from Cuba or Hawaii may very well be a 43 year old sex offender 10 miles from your house. You do not know who that other person is, and just because they say it, it doesn’t make it the truth.
3. Don’t agree to meet anyone you’ve talked to on line. Tell your parents if an on–line friend wants to get together. Suggesting to the friend that your parents join you will also help you find out if the person is real. If they make excuses why they can’t meet your parents, they have something to hide. Tell your parents right away and contact the police. You aren’t the only intended victim and you will save a lot more kids by speaking up.
4. If you fill out a personal profile that others can read online, don’t write anything that says too much about you. Even if it’s an online site set to private.
5. Don’t write back to flames (people who use bad language or want to get into an argument on line). Cyber bullies love this interaction and will continue to find ways to hurt you, even physically, especially if they get you to reveal a lot of personal information about yourself as you try to boast about your accomplishments to feel superior to the bully. It is nothing more than a mind game to get to you, and it’s a waste of your time as well as a possible danger.
6. Log off immediately if you see or read something that personally upsets you. Tell your parents or a teacher if something like that happens. You have every right to leave a chat or ignore any communication that tries to talk you into doing something you don’t like or in any way makes you feel uncomfortable. If someone gets angry with you for leaving the communication or blocking them, report them! A real friend would not do such a thing and you owe them nothing after they disrespected you.
7. Protect your password. No one should ever ask you for it for any reason.
8. Don’t tell your secrets to someone you just met and don’t know outside of the internet. Secrets can be used against you to know how far this person can go to hurt you. Secrets can also be used to blackmail you later from telling about something they say or do to you. If you need someone to talk to, make sure whatever you say is something you would feel comfortable for your parents to know if ever this person threatens to tell.
9. Never send pictures over the Internet. You don’t know who will see them or what will be done with them, and there is no way of getting them back.
10. Let your parents know where you go online so they can make sure it isn’t a site set up to get information or hack your computer for your location. Only people with bad intentions have things to hide online.
1. Keep the computer in a family room, kitchen or another area where you can monitor its use. Having an internet hook up in your child’s room is neglectful and dangerous.
2. Limit your child’s time on line, just like you do their television viewing. They need a balance of activities in their lives, and the more they rely on the computer and internet as their entertainment, the more comfortable they will feel talking to strangers about anything.
3. Take time to teach your children how to use the computer and internet responsibly.
4. Discuss the rules with your children. Post them near the computer as a reminder.
5. Ask about your child’s online friends so you know with whom they are communicating. Let your child know that you care about their safety and are watching to be sure they remember your guidelines.
6. Most Internet providers offer parental controls with their service. Use them to keep children away from undesirable sites. Report anything that gets by parental controls and let your Internet service provider know what you expect in terms of keeping kids safe.
7. Learn all you can about blocking and filtering software offered by computer stores. Many can be purchased or downloaded for FREE.
8. Check out the World Wide Web for organizations that represent children’s rights. Do a search using keywords, such as “Internet safety for kids,” and your browser will take you there. Many have newsletters you can download to keep you updated on the latest Internet information.
9. Don’t use the tired old excuse that kids can get internet access anywhere, so there’s nothing you can do. Safety begins at home! If you teach your child what he or she needs to know in life, be open and honest about the dangers out there, help them understand what they can do to stay safe, then you have given them a fighting chance when they aren’t in your presence.
10. Additionally, Morality/Dignity/Self-respect begins at home. If you don’t want your child taking sexually explicit photos of themselves with that camphone you irresponsibly gave them, or webcam you allowed them to use when they close their door to get online, then make sure they know they are not a piece of meat.
Make sure your children know they don’t deserve to be treated like a sexual object for anyone because they are better than that. Let them know that it isn’t just something you don’t like or agree with. Let them know it’s also that you know they deserve to be treated better.
A lot of kids online don’t get praise or acceptance at home. Then they meet someone on the internet via chat, social networking site, or game sites willing to give it to them…as long as they get naked for them or tell them anything they want to know.