These Psychiatrists Want Your Child Raped By Their Patients (updated)

(***Second Update: Addendum added at bottom as rebuttal to homosexuality argument*** 9/15/2011)

(***Update at bottom of article***)

In the event this atrocity has slipped by you, the pedophiles and their buddies in the medical community are at it again. I’m speaking, of course, about their pathetic attempt to list pedophilia as simply a misunderstood sexual orientation, liking it to homosexuality and comparing the public’s view of pedophiles as has been the intolerance suffered by the gay and lesbian community (This should outrage GLAAD as much as the rest of us). There is a conference aiming at normalizing pedophilia. This time, however, this sadistic movement is getting much wider coverage and won’t be some secret mission hidden from the normal people in society who can and will stand up against it.

I would normally only post a few clippings here and have my readers follow the link to the full story; however, this is far too important to have you skipping back and forth. Here is what was planned for August 17, 2011:

Conference aims to normalize pedophilia

By John Rossomando – The Daily Caller Published: 10:00 AM 08/15/2011 | Updated: 4:38 PM 08/15/2011

If a small group of psychiatrists and other mental health professionals have their way at a conference this week, pedophiles themselves could play a role in removing pedophilia from the American Psychiatric Association’s bible of mental illnesses — the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), set to undergo a significant revision by 2013.  Critics warn that their success could lead to the decriminalization of pedophilia.

The August 17 Baltimore conference is sponsored by B4U-ACT, a group of pro-pedophile mental health professionals and sympathetic activists.  According to the conference brochure, the event will examine “ways in which minor-attracted persons [pedophiles] can be involved in the DSM 5 revision process” and how the popular perceptions of pedophiles can be reframed to encourage tolerance.

Researchers from Harvard University, the Johns Hopkins University, the University of Louisville, and the University of Illinois will be among the panelists at the conference.

B4U-ACT has been active attacking the APA’s definition of pedophilia in the run up to the conference, denouncing its description of “minor-attracted persons” as “inaccurate” and “misleading” because the current DSM links pedophilia with criminality.

“It is based on data from prison studies, which completely ignore the existence of those who are law-abiding,” said Howard Kline, science director of B4U-ACT, in a July 25, 2011 press release. “The proposed new diagnostic criteria specify ages and frequencies with no scientific basis whatsoever.”

The press release announced a letter the group sent to the APA criticizing its approach, and inviting its leaders to participate in the August 17 conference. “The DSM should meet a higher standard than that,” Kline continued. “We can help them, because we are the people they are writing about.”

APA spokeswoman Erin Connors told The Daily Caller in an emailed statement that her organization was not participating in the conference and would not comment on its aims.

Child advocate Dr. Judith Reisman, a visiting professor at Liberty University’s School of Law, said the conference is part of a strategy to condition people into accepting pedophiles.

“The first thing they do is to get the public to divest from thinking of what the offender does criminally, to thinking of the offender’s emotional state, to think of him as thinking of his emotional state, [and] to empathize and sympathize,” Reisman said. “You don’t change the nation in one fell swoop; you have to change it by conditioning. The aim is to get them [pedophiles] out of prison.”

According to Reisman, empirical data show that pedophiles typically molest many children before finally being caught.

“The data on paroled pedophiles confirms these predators repeat their crimes against children and are known to have escalated them even to murder,” Reisman said.

Several speakers at the August 17 conference, including B4U-ACT director of operations Dr. Richard Kramer and conference keynote speaker Dr. Fred Berlin, of the Johns Hopkins University, have actively opposed sex offender notification laws.

“What purpose does calling someone a ‘pervert’ or ‘predator’ serve anyway, other than to express contempt and hatred?” Kramer wrote in a March 14, 2009 blog entry on the website ReformSexOffenderLaws.org. “How is this productive? It certainly doesn’t protect children. I would urge all SO [sex offender] activists to listen to their own message: Stop buying into and promoting false stereotypes. Stop demonizing a whole class of people, and start learning the facts.”

Berlin has similarly compared society’s reaction to pedophilia to that of homosexuality prior to the landmark 2003 Lawrence v. Texas decision that decriminalized sodomy.

B4U-ACT’s own website puts Berlin’s views front and center. “Just as has been the case historically with homosexuality,” he writes, “society is currently addressing the matter of pedophilia with a balance that is far more heavily weighted on the side of criminal justice solutions than on the side of mental health solutions.”

Berlin’s opposition to, and even noncompliance with, Maryland’s sex offender notification law drew scrutiny from former Maryland Attorney General J. Joseph Curran in the early 1990s.

In 1990 The Baltimore Sun reported that Berlin refused to report pedophiles under his care who were actively molesting children.

In an emailed statement to TheDC, Berlin distanced himself Monday afternoon from other B4U-ACT conference participants’ stated aims, saying that he opposes removing pedophilia from the DSM and that he hopes to stop pedophiles before they act.

Berlin also disputed Reisman’s contention that he wants to decriminalize pedophilia, noting that “society’s interests can best be served by supporting both criminal justice interventions and public health initiatives.”

Reisman remains unconvinced. “His empathy was with the pedophile and the pederast, not with the child victim,” she told TheDC. “He refused to report the criminal to law enforcement because he said they were in treatment.

“Taxpayers pay for treatment and they are molesting kids. They go out to Berlin, and he gets paid by us [the taxpayers] for therapy.”

Reisman also claims that mental health practitioners like Berlin want to place pedophilia on a par with neuroses or clinical depression, and counsel pedophiles rather than incarcerate them.

“The scientific defense of pedophiles follows on the natural outgrowth of … [Alfred Kinsey’s] 1948 book ‘Sexual Behavior of the Human Male’ where he describes the rapes of infants and children, as would any pedophile, as ‘orgasmic,’” Reisman said.

Reisman warns that declassifying pedophilia as a mental illness could result in the repeal of child-protection statutes because the law always follows the input of psychiatry. She points to psychiatry’s normalization of sadomasochism, exhibitionism, and homosexuality as precedents.

“[I]t has been carried from the university to the law, going back to Kinsey,” Reisman said.

And other conference panelists such as Jacob Breslow, a graduate student in gender research at the London School of Economics, plan to discuss how political activists can exploit removing pedophilia from the next edition of the DSM for their own ends.

“Allowing for a form of non-diagnosable minor attraction is exciting, as it creates a sexual or political identity by which activists, scholars and clinicians can better understand Minor Attracted Persons,” Breslow writes in a summary of his upcoming August 17 presentation.

“This understanding may displace the stigma, fear and objection that is naturalized as being attached to Minor Attracted Persons and may alter the terms by which non-normative sexualities are known.

I don’t call my site “The Ultimate Evil” for nothing, the same as Andrew Vachss who called his child sex slavery novel  the name first.

This is what we know to be “Grooming.” Yes, pedophiles groom society the same way they groom children, though with a different desired outcome. They groom children to be complacant in their sexual abuse and to be too afraid to tell. They groom parents to accept their steadily increasing interest in their child. They groom society to accept their sexual abuse of children by first desensitizing the public (via jokes about child rape, images mocking child rape, mocking the fight against predators, demonizing television shows and news specials aimed at taking down predators, etc..), then by introducing themselves as sick or past victims who need help, until finally the only victim in their crime is the abuser him/herself.

I have had many pedophiles try to groom me and other visitors with their “oh, woe is me” comments. It has never worked. Now that this conference has taken place, I’m seeing an even slicker crowd come forth.

I just received a comment on an earlier post exposing pedophile codes and symbols by this … interesting … individual. I find it interesting that it comes on the heels of the current push to normalize pedophilia, beginning with the grooming by the pedophile community of society to show “compassion and understanding” for the abusers rather than the victims. Isn’t that what the multi-million dollar state of the art rehab centers for baby rapers are for? I can’t help but to ask yet again when victims are going to get such compassion and understanding. You know, because logic and reason dictate that in order to effectively stop the cycle of abuse, the victim must receive help as soon as possible to cope and to heal. Wouldn’t the only reason to give so much coddling to a criminal who has already created many victims, thus ensuring the continuation and expansion of the cycle of abuse, be to simply help them avoid prison?

But my intelligence and I digress…. where were we? Ah, yes. A comment by a pedophile sympathizer:

Ambrose Chrysis
ambrosechrysis@**********.com
190.132.248.***

Submitted on 2011/08/26 at 5:59 pm 

Whoa, that’s a lot of misplaced hatred.

Should people who rape children be sent to prison? Personally I’m more in favor of execution in instances in which guilt can be established without doubt. Why risk repeat offense?

But listen, pedophiles are not necessarily child rapists.

I knew a pedophile I respected immensely because he understood that his desires were wrong, and vowed to never, ever act on them. A tortured life to lead, but a noble one.

We may never be able to eliminate pedophilia in the sense of sexual attraction to children, but we can eliminate sexual abuse of children by teaching these people to control their urges.

Hatred for them will not help them. When they do offend, they must be permanently removed from society, and either used as slave labor, for medical experimentation, or put to death.

Not out of hatred, but necessity. If anything, compassion for them and others.

The reason some of those lines are in bold is to help you read between the lines and see the true intent of this comment. It is quite obvious this author is only after convincing me to “care about” and “understand” pedophiles. He even goes so far as to call them respectable and noble!

Let me explain something in the event you don’t already know: Pedophiles NEVER avoid children! That is an outright lie. And by the time an abuser is caught, he or she has already abused many others he groomed into silence. There has never been a case of which I am aware that a pedophile was caught the very first time he raped or molested a child. I have heard of young pedophiles being afraid of their feelings and telling someone before acting upon them. By the time a pedophile is actually caught for sexual abuse, though, they already have a history of doing so.

Pedophile sympathizers like Ambrose want us to care instead of hate. Honestly, do you really need any more proof as to the state of someone’s mind when they chastise people for hating those who rape children?

To be honest, though, I see what he is saying. In closing, let me share the wisdom of his suggestions:

Teaching pedophiles to control their urges:

The naked pedophile would be placed into the chair so that the thorns would stick into their body at the slightest movement. If necessary, the chair could be incandesced, a fire lit beneath the seat, and accessory instruments like finger and toe tongs could be attached. The rehabilitation could last from a few hours to several weeks.

Another teaching device that involves knee crushing and whatever other lessons the pedophile may need.

Why, I can almost guarantee any thought of sex with children would suddenly become such a terror, most pedophiles would be cured! Ambrose and the pedophile loving psychos may be on to something.

And for those who are too ill for compassion and deterrants to work, there is always

The Cure

Barrett 82A1 .50 cal sniper rifle

For those extra tough cases involving groups of poor lost pedophiles, such as NAMBLA, there’s a

Community Rehabilitation Plan

Because rescuing the innocent and bringing down terrorists is what they do best.

———————————–UPDATE———————————-

There was an excellent show on B.A.C.A. Nation Radio last night featuring guest Dr. Judith Reisman, “scientific consultant to four U.S. Department of Justice administrations, the U.S. Department of Education, the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services,” an “international expert witness on human sexuality,” and an attendee at the above pro-pedophilia conference. Upon looking through information about pedophile supporter and keynote speaker at the conference, Dr. Fred Berlin (founder of the Johns Hopkins Sexual Disorders Clinic), I found an article which outlined some of the remarks made on pamphlets, by pedophile attendees, and by speakers like Berlin:

• Pedophiles are “unfairly stigmatized and demonized” by society.
• There was concern about “vice-laden diagnostic criteria” and “cultural baggage of wrongfulness.”
• “We are not required to interfere with or inhibit our child’s sexuality.”
• “Children are not inherently unable to consent” to sex with an adult.
• “In Western culture sex is taken too seriously.”
• “Anglo-American standard on age of consent is new [and ‘Puritanical’]. In Europe it was always set at 10 or 12. Ages of consent beyond that are relatively new and very strange, especially for boys. They’ve always been able to have sex at any age.”
• An adult’s desire to have sex with children is “normative.”
• Our society should “maximize individual liberty. … We have a highly moralistic society that is not consistent with liberty.”
• “Assuming children are unable to consent lends itself to criminalization and stigmatization.”
• “These things are not black and white; there are various shades of gray.”
• A consensus belief by both speakers and pedophiles in attendance was that, because it vilifies MAPs, pedophilia should be removed as a mental disorder from the American Psychiatric Association’s (APA) Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), in the same manner homosexuality was removed in 1973.
• Dr. Fred Berlin acknowledged that it was political activism, similar to that witnessed at the conference, rather than scientific considerations that successfully led to the declassification of homosexuality as a mental disorder: The reason “homosexuality was taken out of DSM is that people didn’t want the government in the bedroom,” he said.
• Dr. Berlin appeared to endorse the politically maligned clinical practice of “reparative therapy” for homosexuals and pedophiles alike, saying, “If someone, for their own reasons, doesn’t want to live a homosexual lifestyle, I tell them that it’s hard but I’ll try to help them.” 
• The DSM ignores those pedophiles “have feelings of love and romance for children” in the same way adult heterosexuals and homosexuals have romantic feelings for one another.
• “The majority of pedophiles are gentle and rational.”
• The DSM should “focus on the needs” of the pedophile, and should have “a minimal focus on social control,” rather than obsessing about the “need to protect children.”
• Self-described “gay activist” and speaker Jacob Breslow said that children can properly be “the object of our attraction.” He further objectified children, suggesting that pedophiles needn’t gain consent from a child to have sex with “it” any more than we need consent from a shoe to wear it. He then used graphic, slang language to favorably describe the act of climaxing (ejaculating) “on or with” a child. No one in attendance objected to this explicit depiction of child sexual assault. [I strongly urge GLAAD to place as much distance as possible between them and this "self-descrived gay activist", and I remind everyone that sexual abusers in certain religious cults claim their god or their prophet tells them to marry and fornicate with children.]

The author of the article, Nathan Tabor, attempted to call Johns Hopkins Hospital Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences and inquire as to their knowledge of their professor’s favoritism for sexually abusing children. Although the person on the other end claimed not to know anything about it, they didn’t seem to take the call seriously. Mr. Tabor published the contact information for Berlin’s boss, Dr. J. Raymond DePaulo- director of the Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences department at John’s Hopkins, in the event those of us intellectually superior to pedophiles would like to share their opinions and concerns:

J. Raymond DePaulo, Jr., M.D.
Henry Phipps Professor and Director
Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences
Phone: 410-955-3130
Psychchair@jhmi.edu

“I will prescribe regimens for the good of my patients

according to my ability and my judgment

and never do harm to anyone.”

–Hippocratic Oath

***Addendum – 9-15-2011***

I received a comment by a pedophile last week that I sent directly to spam due to my refusal to participate in useless repetitive arguing. However, the comment caused me to re-read my article and the conversation with the previous pedophile sympathizer in the comments below. I came to realize that I left this post open to speculation regarding the connection with pedophilia and homosexuality. I would like to correct that unintentional oversight and express my feelings more clearly on the matter.

Pedophiles and their ilk frequently attempt to compare pedophilia with homosexuality. They want people to see them as victims of bigotry, ostracized by a small-minded public that is trying to force its ethical or religious will upon everyone. The so-called psychiatrists that are the subjects of this post lead their pedophile brethren in this attempt to psychologically manipulate society.

Never forget that these people have been trained to garner emotions and control how we feel and respond to any given situation. They know they are logically and academically incorrect in the comparison of pedophilia with homosexuality, but they realize not all of society has a medical degree, particularly in psychiatry, and the easily manipulated media certainly doesn’t take the time to research such things from a scientific point of view.

These people are counting on our gullibility and outright stupidity. Our children and generations to come are counting on us to use intelligence, rational thinking, and good old fashioned common sense.

Here is what we know to be fact:

Homosexuality is a mistake of nature, but it is, none-the-less, part of nature.

The primary purpose for intercourse is to breed and continue on the population of a species. The sensation of pleasure exists to ensure the species finds the activity acceptable enough to perform, thereby ensuring the survival of the species. If you don’t like something, you usually don’t do it, particularly if it is painful or unpleasant. For a species to continue thriving, breeding must occur.

In nature, some species rely upon forced copulation. Humans, however, have evolved beyond such primitive behavior. We can communicate with words, we can create with tools and electricity, we understand reason, and we understand that violence against another for selfish reasons is counterproductive to our evolution. We reason, theorize, experiment, and conclude based upon science instead of simply behaving as instinct in the wild dictates.  This is why consensual sex is part of our ever evolving species, and heterosexual relations are necessary and normal for our kind. It is true, then, that homosexuality is not normal and it is not as nature intended us to be because it interrupts our species progression.

How, then, do we handle homosexuals and homosexuality?

Being part of a species that has evolved as I stated previously includes understanding that those born with this infliction should not be punished for that which they had no opportunity or ability to oppose. Regardless of a person’s opinion about sexual orientation, we can all agree that everyone deserves human contact in the form of affection, and human interactions that include love.

One can argue in defense of their disapproval with homosexuality, but any argument they present should be formed after they have learned the facts of homosexuality. Any effective argument in their favor must include facts and not opinion. The truth of the matter is, arguments against homosexuals do not treat the individuals as separate entities from the orientation.  Furthermore, arguments against homosexuals and homosexuality have been driven by religious leanings rather than science and academic findings. We cannot impose our religious beliefs onto others. Religion is not a necessary item in our species’ growth and evolution. It is purely for spiritual growth and the presumed impact such growth has on the growth of humanity (which is another experiment altogether, and although fascinating to me, does not pertain to this article).

Judging homosexuals and homosexuality, then, from strictly a scientific perception, we see that same-sex intercourse may not be beneficial to the evolutionary cycle of mankind or the promotion of the species’ population, but consensual relations between humans at a stage in their physical and mental growth that can accept such a relationship and its consequences does no harm to the species as it cannot encourage the genes that would normally be passed on through heterosexual intercourse.

When we discuss consensual sexual relations and the affect consent vs. force has upon the human race, then associate the discussion with those who have sex with children, we see that pedophilia is quite different from homosexuality in that only pedophilia truly harms the species with a much greater impact.

Taking the identical points made in the paragraphs pertaining to homosexuality, we know based upon scientific study through psychological testing and physical examinations that pedophilia does harm the human race and attempts to halt its intellectual evolution, which will in turn begin to erode the population.

Sexual abuse on children results in a psychological break down of a child’s intellect. Common knowledge is that a child generally stops or dramatically slows down their mental maturity at the time they are abused. If a 25 year old was sexually assaulted at 6, that 25 year old will show signs of behaving as a 6 year old. The severity of exhibiting such behavior will depend upon how often the person was abused and for how long it lasted. Let us say this 25 year old becomes pregnant by another 25 year old who was beaten every day from the time he could walk until puberty. Both parents will not only lack proper parenting skills, they will, also, pass on genes that include a slowed mental development. Perhaps during the young woman’s sexual abuse, she developed a sexually transmitted disease or other physical traumas. These can affect the pregnancy, growth of the fetus, birth, and perhaps even life of the child if these things were passed on to him while inside of the womb.

Most pedophiles were sexually abused as children. They encourage the cycle of abuse by not fighting any psychological defect that compels them to have sexual relations with a child. This cycle grows to include other children, more and more over time as each child grows into a possible pedophile and creates their own family tree of victims.

The damage here is twofold: Since female children are not yet fertile, and since a male child cannot get a woman pregnant, sexual relations with children hurts the population growth. Additionally, each child that is coerced or physically forced into sexual relations with an adult will develop severe psychological problems that will be counterproductive to the species’ social growth.

Children are, also, not mentally prepared to accept the emotional weight of a sexual relationship or intellectually developed enough to understand sex. Adults get into relationships with other adults sometimes with a mutual understanding that it is only a sexual relationship. They are both responsible for their actions and decision to engage in such a situation. Adults who prey upon children expect us to believe that a child can 1. make an informed decision to agree to such a relationship, and 2. are capable of understanding and being in control of any emotional involvement, such as the love a pedophile claims to have for the child he or she is sexually abusing.

Physically speaking, children are not developed to accept sexual intercourse with an adult. For an adult to accomplish this, there must be force of some kind – be it physical or psychological manipulation. (And here we see that since both physical and psychological force are illegal, this leaves no possible defense of pedophilia.)

Although a child is not responsible for what an adult does, an adult is responsible for their actions when they become old enough to understand the consequences of those actions. Whereas homosexuality is not a choice and does not greatly impact the evolution of the species because it does not create more non-productive homosexuals, pedophilia is always a choice when acted upon and causes great damage to the species’ in numerous ways.

I hope this clears up the factual side of this argument as I will no longer entertain those intolerant of the truth.

On a more opinionated note, though still factual in its sense, the comparison of homosexuality and pedophilia infuriates me because, for one, it compares consensual sex between adults to forced sex between adults and children. Next, I have seen the harm anti-gay activism can do to the war on child sexual abuse.

There is an alarming number of people who insist upon indicating that pedophilia pertains to men raping boys, claiming it is a gay crime. They like to cite groups such as North American Man Boy Love Association, even though there are more groups designed for men who desire little girls and even women who desire little boys. This hurts our cause tremendously because the truth is, there are more cases of opposite-gender assaults than same-sex. By the argument of these anti-gay groups, all heterosexuals must then be child molesters based upon the statistics placing heterosexual child abuse cases above homosexual ones.  Since the number of children who suffer abuse by an adult of the opposite sex outnumber those who suffer by an adult of the same gender, the majority of victims are being forgotten and ignored. Personally, I have no doubt that this is one of the many reasons these pedophile psychiatrists are trying to compare their movement to homosexuality. It creates more anti-gay followers and puts the emphasis on homosexuality rather than child sexual assault.

Stalking Children – There’s An App For That

How many parents have smart phones and other mobile devices which contain apps their children play? How many children have iPods, iPads, iPhones, or other such devices that allow game applications using wifi or any form of connection to social interactions?

Are children safe using those Free or .99 app downloads? They download onto the device with a sweet little icon of a silly bird or pretty princess or some cartoon character that is a must-have for a young fan.

What could possibly be harmful about a game on a mobile device?

You’ve taken all the necessary precautions. Your child isn’t allowed to have Yahoo! messenger, Facebook, or any other social chat application, and they aren’t allowed to use the phone function. Perhaps they have a smart phone that is not connected for phone use, but the Wi-Fi works just fine so they can play their cool little games.

Well, what a lot of parents don’t know is that many of these seemingly harmless game apps contain in-game chat features. Game app hosts, such as Game Center, are even now demanding users agree to a new policy that allows everyone you are connected to in your game apps under their provider be sent your personal information — i.e. real name and location used in your iTunes billing. Game apps are more intrusive than they once were, and children are becoming easier targets than ever.

In addition to game apps with chat, there are various chat apps that range from free to costing several dollars. The most dangerous for children are the ones that ensure secrecy, such as TigerText. Some of these apps even have a disguised icon and can be hidden on the device. This is why parents should always, always check their accounts associated with the device their child uses. These accounts will list all downloads, including free ones. Examine all apps before allowing your child to use them by reading the description as well as user reviews.

This is an example of TigerText from an Android website:

It’s quite frightening when you think this could be a conversation between an 11 year old girl and a 30 year old man. “Erin” could very well be that 30 year old man. It doesn’t take much to steal photos and names with personal details from sites like flikr, Photobucket, and Facebook.

I received a private comment a few days ago by a terrified mom. She discovered her daughter had been in communications with an identity thief who had convinced her to divulge all of the family’s personal information, such as siblings’ names, parents’ names, birthdays, locations, and other private matters. This all took place through the chat feature of a game her daughter played on an iPhone with its phone service disabled.

It was bad enough to discover this grown man’s interactions with her very young daughter.  After seeking help from law enforcement, the mother learned this man had stolen the identity of a dead military man.

Perhaps this man isn’t a sexual predator. Perhaps he wasn’t seeking to do her daughter or other children physical harm.  This man is none-the-less an identity thief, one who could be using the open honesty of children to gather information to steal and sell private information to other identity thieves.

This mom and any parent in this situation has a right and a reason to be scared and angry. What they should not feel is hopeless. Unfortunately, the man committed no crime against this family by merely speaking to the girl, so the mother cannot receive official help as of yet. However, she is anything but helpless and this situation, though frightening and grim, is anything but hopeless.

This was my public response to her unpublished comment, relevant paragraphs only, to pass on my personal advice within this article:

Dear Devastated Parent:

[...]I need to first tell you that I am not an employee of any branch of law enforcement, nor am I qualified to give out legal advice. I am a volunteer who has worked side by side with LE.

That being said, I AM a parent and a concerned citizen and have every right to advise you on those terms.

If you still have access to chat messages and anything at all passed between them, take screen shots of them all. Do you know how to do that? Press the Home button at the bottom of the flat screen and the power button at the same time while on the page you wish to “photograph”.

Anything that was passed between them via chat can sometimes be saved to a file. I’m not sure what game this was or if it has the feature to save chats. Check it out.

It doesn’t matter if anyone tells you that you cannot be helped under whatever circumstance they give. Gathering the information in one nice neat pile as soon as possible and as it happens when possible will help when action is finally able to be taken (if it is needed).

Make sure any law enforcement officer you speak with gives you a case #. If they don’t provide you with one, tell them you want a file started on this immediately and you want the case number. In my experience, if you ask, they must open a file for you and add to it anytime you call them with another bit of information. I don’t know if this is true in all states, but it has been in ones I have been a part of. This way, there is an official jacket in the event this person tries to contact your child or your family. It adds up and shows a pattern they cannot deny in court.

As for safety concerns, I completely understand your fear. Do you still have access to the account? Did you or your daughter send this person a final message?

This is what I would do: I would send the person a message and inform them that the police have been made aware of their activity. I would tell them the police have screen shots and copies of everything, and that there is a report on file. Tell the person you have saved everything and are prepared to turn over the device and access to your account for the police to find them should they continue to try and contact your child or anyone in your family. (And yes, the FBI can do this if it comes down to it, and the FBI CAN and WILL become involved if this is occurring across state lines. Even inside the same state if necessary.). Tell them in no uncertain terms that they are never to contact your child again. Then leave it at that. Remove them from any account she has. If they try to be re-added, send that into the police for the file, as well. It goes to show contact/stalking of a minor against the parent’s wishes. Make sure you save a copy or a screen shot of the message you send the person. Don’t let your child back into the app, but you monitor it, yourself, to see if they try to contact her again.

[...]

PS: Also, iTunes has a Terms of Service area. Read through it and see if this person violated anything. Contact iTunes and tell them of this person, too, and provide them the username associated with the game. I’m not sure what they can do, if anything, but again, you will have a report out there about this person. And iTunes will now have a report about this person in the event they do it again. Quite possibly, this person has been reported to iTunes already. This could be cause for iTunes to contact the FBI or some other agency that can stop this person. You can call the iTunes office, as well, and inquire about what you can do and what they can do to better protect kids from this person.

[...]

After leaving this comment, I went in search of various ways parents can better monitor their children’s activities on their mobile devices.  We cannot stop the predators from their attempts to reach our children in these ways, but we have all the power on our end to stop them from succeeding. Short of not giving a child such a device to begin with, there are other ways to monitor what they do and with whom they communicate.

MobiStealth – Parental Control and Monitoring Software    The information for this says it is for Android, but I found that it can be purchased for most mobile phones. There are several separate features that can be purchased, as well, which include but are not restricted to tracking text messages and phone calls, location of the device, web and picture history, and reverse look-up for unfamiliar numbers that have called the device.

Mobile-Spy Software for Smartphones    This does the same as above but seems to be compatible with more devices.

Spy Phone Apps   This is a website that lists several other choices in mobile monitoring technology.

(I do want to mention that it appears there are other reasons someone may want to install such software into a mobile device, some possibly nefarious. I was somewhat shocked at the capabilities of these items, and it compels me to post this warning to all readers that although these can be useful tools in protecting children and keeping ones personal property safe, they can, also, be used to spy on innocent adults and even victims of domestic violence. I am quite sure stalkers can put this to good use, as well, especially boyfriends and girlfriends in teen dating abuse situations.)

In the event you feel this is invading a child’s personal space and in some way showing them you don’t trust them, and this somehow bothers you, you need to remember they are children. There should never be an issue of invasion of privacy when ensuring your child’s safety. The relationship between a parent and a child is one of protector and protected, defender and defended. We are parents first before anything else, and friend only after our parental duties are met. If you have a problem distinguishing this, you should visit your local police department and view the hundreds of files of juvenile cases, both victim and perpetrator, stemming from parental neglect. And make no mistake. Refusing to do everything you can to protect your child from the very real dangers we know are in this world is neglect.

We cannot protect our children from everything, but we don’t have to make it easy for predators, either. These people go for easy targets first and tend to pass up those with attentive and safety-conscious parents and care-givers. Don’t let your child be an easy target by leaving the window wide open. You wouldn’t walk up to a stranger and hand them the keys to your house. Don’t hand a predator the key to your child.

(Among others, I am tagging this article under Grooming Techniques because game chat is a popular new way of grooming children.)

The Real Halloween Monsters

Please be aware that pedophiles treat Halloween like Meals-On-Wheels.

Law enforcement, the FBI, and NCMEC as well as volunteers like me know that child sexual predators consider Halloween the greatest opportunity of the year. They get to befriend kids with their parents right beside them, look at them through snug fitting costumes, and give them candy to convince them they’re okay.

Registered sex offenders convicted of sexual misconduct with children are forbidden from participating in Halloween activities where children are allowed. This includes Trick or Treat. However, many do not abide by that restriction and the police are often times too busy on this night with violent crimes to monitor them.

Trick-or-Treat has long been a traditional predatory event. They post stories about their encounters (LG moments, LB moments = Little Girl/Little Boy) on pedophile forums and when getting together.

We have read disturbing and vile accounts on pedophile forums about children in their costumes, descriptions of how sexy they look and the fantasies that were imagined about the neighbor’s child. We’ve heard them brag about getting children’s full names and addresses, and not just by the child but by the parent with whom the perp engages in a polite conversation. We’ve seen them coach each other in the proper ways of grooming the parents and the child in the following months for future sexual contact.

One of the most important things you can do when preparing to take your child trick-or-treating is to visit the FBI’s sex offender registry and looking up your location so you can avoid these addresses. Not all child sexual abusers are listed on the National Sex Offender Registry, although it’s a very good idea to check out www.familywatchdog.us as well as the FBI’s official site registry for your state.

I know that there are 36 in my neighborhood, and the only way I know is through the registry as they are not required here to make their presence known to parents. Just because someone isn’t listed on the registry, it doesn’t mean they are harmless. It could mean they either have failed to register or they haven’t been caught.

Trick or Treat is a happy time for kids in this country and should not be feared or forgotten because of monsters who use our kids as sexual fantasies.  Keep Halloween a fun experience for your children by reminding them of stranger protocol.  Chance favors a prepared mind:

1. Children should NEVER go out unaccompanied by a parent!  Every year, I see groups of small children accompanied by young teens and no parents in sight. This is unacceptable and anything that happens to those children are the fault of those parents – morally and legally.
2. Children should be reminded that although this is a fun ritual, strangers are still very much strangers and should not be given personal information (such as name, where they live, school, etc…). Teach your child it is always improper for an adult to ask their name and/or where they live, and instruct your child to let you know if any one asks such information.
3. Regardless of what a person at the door tells them, there is no good reason to EVER return to that home. It could be a promise of more candy, letting them play with their dog or other family pet, etc… I’ve seen a stranger give out small dinosaur toys and instruct the children to look up the dinosaur and come back to his home — with or without the parents — to tell him about it. He is not their teacher and this is not acceptable!
4. One thing pedophiles use to their advantage is that a child chooses their costume based upon their favorite things. This opens the door for a conversation with the child on the pretense of similar interests.
5. If an adult tries to get into a conversation with your child, other than a brief “Nice costume” etc, take your child’s hand and leave immediately. It isn’t to say the person is a predator, but you cannot let your child grow accustomed to having conversations with strangers.
6. 6.  Regardless of how polite the person is, they are still a stranger to you and your child. Therefore, you should not be giving out information, either.  One grooming technique is to go through the parents to get to the child. This is not your friend or a chance at a first date. This is a stranger and should be treated as such for the safety of your child.

 

This article and any other you may find in this same spirit is not meant to dampen the Halloween spirit or throw about pedophile panic.  This is only a reminder about the dangers out there because so many allow their guard to drop so their kids can have as much fun as they had.  They can still have just as much fun if you are willing to quietly do your part as their guardian. It is your obligation to be your child’s protector as they venture out so they can enjoy childhood for as long as possible. They are counting on you to take their safety seriously

Learning The Hard Way About Internet Predators

(This post is part of a 2-Part special post on internet safety. Part 2 is below.)

So, you have it all figured out, right? You have all the blockers on your computer, have had talk after talk, after talk with your child about the dangers on the internet, maybe have even shown your son or daughter news clippings or television shows exposing the truth about the online predator on the other end of chat.

Have you ever seen those expose specials where the undercover reporter poses as a guy who lost his dog and gets little kids to follow him for their parents to witness via hidden camera? Or when they leave a very real looking toy gun in a room with a group of kids and hidden cameras to show parents just how willing their child is to pick up an unattended firearm and accidentally kill their sibling/neighbor/best friend?

Believing your children are safe from online predators when not under your watchful eye just because you gave them rules has the same result.

I was sent a story this week by a very internet danger-savy mom who had such a terrifying experience with her then-14 year old and an online predator who wasn’t as distant as the daughter believed. She has permitted me to post her daughter’s story to help other parents and kids be aware of just how real the online dangers are.

Just because you think they are miles away and couldn’t harm you in person, it doesn’t make it true. It only shows just how little you or your child knows about technology and how determined predators are to get to their intended victim.

My daughter thought I was just awful because I limited her time on the internet and secured it with parental controls. As well, I monitored all the places she visited and she thought I was just horrible. According to her, “I was the ONLY parent that did this”. I strongly believe in monitoring our children, on the internet, in order to protect them from predators at all costs. Here is why. This is a true and very scary story. You just never know who is really behind a key board and what their intentions are. The internet is a Predators playground with access to so many vulnerable children. They know children are trusting…that’s the saddest part of it all.

I have a very beautiful daughter. At the time, she was 14-years old and boy crazy! Her name is “Kristy”. She went home with a friend of hers after school one day. I knew her parents and the friend and all of them were very good people. We all wanted to see our kids protected.

On this particular day, the parents weren’t due home until about 30-minutes after the girls got there. They decided to hop on the internet and talk with their latest “cute boy”. He was very handsome and 14-years old. He told the girls how pretty they were and over a few days, got them to send him pictures, and personal information, including the town they lived in and the school they attended. They were smart enough not to give out their home address or phone numbers. They thought….they really did think they were being “careful”.

About 25 minutes into them chatting with this cute 14-year old boy, there was a knock on the door. Being the trusting gals they were, they opened the door, only to find a 30-year old man standing there. I will call him “Clark” . “Clark” proceeded to invite himself in, past the girls, even though they told him “no”. He had told them he was the one that had been chatting with them online for the last 25 minutes. They thought he was behind the PC at his house. He was indeed, behind the wheel of his car, chatting over his phone on the internet. Little known to the 2 girls, he was on their way to their house, in his car, and not at all behind his desk at home. He was not 14-years old, and he was not a handsome boy. He was a predator that had set out to harm these two girls. He had taken what personal information they thought was just harmless chatting and tracked them down to the address where they were. This still makes my hair stand on end…

As he pushed his way past the girls into the house, they started screaming. Thankfully, it took 5 minutes of flustering, before the man began to come after the girls, fully intending to do harm. Their parents were THANKFULLY just pulling into the driveway and heard the girls screaming and ran into the house. Also, thankfully, they rescued the girls and had the man apprehended by the police after he fled the scene.

It turned out, that this man was a convicted child molester, and the girls were his next 2 victims. There is no telling what may have happened to them, if there parents were just 15 minutes late getting home that night from work. Thankfully, he was put behind bars and the girls were INCREDIBLY lucky. He had all the cool talk and teenage lingo down pat. He knew just how to lure the girls in and make it seem like harmless chatting. He was a professional at doing this and did it well.

I thank God often that the two of them were unharmed physically. It did leave emotional scars on them both that they still are overcoming. But? Today, my daughter has a daughter. And, I can tell you, she has her internet fully locked down and her daughter highly monitored. It took this very close call for my daughter to understand why I did what I did. I am thankful, it was a close call and not an event that could have scarred her for life, or worse, taken her from me.

If you have children, please continue protecting them. YOU are the ONLY thing in between them and the thousands of sick predators out there. No matter how mean she may think you are, YOU are doing the right thing Mom. Keep on doing it! Share it with other parents and encourage them to also monitor their childs internet time. The world is just way too full of sick adults that prey on our children and the internet is a prime playground for it.

Did you know this? Type in your phone number onto google. Chances are….? It gives the address straight to your house, which can then be traced on MapQuest for directions. Way too scary! The internet makes it too easy for our children to become unsuspecting victims.

*names have been changed

Two very important points were made in this post: 1. Children have access to the internet in more ways than just home, and 2. The multiple ways predators have of gaining personal information from even the most innocent of circumstances.

INTERNET ACCESS

A. Friend’s House/School

Just how much internet monitoring does your child’s friend’s parents do in their home? Just because you are a danger-conscious parent doesn’t mean others are.

There are, sadly, quite a number of parents who think such monitoring is an invasion of their child’s privacy. They treat their sons and daughters like tax paying citizens rather than dependents who need parents, not friends, to guide them in life and keep them safe from harm.  There are many kids who are allowed to shut their bedroom door and browse the net freely at all hours. Their parents even knock on the door and when told to go away, “obey” rather than check out the situation.

Time and time again, the FBI’s internet crimes and innocent images task force and law enforcement’s local efforts, including McGruff the Crime Dog visits, warn parents about the dangers of allowing a child to have unencumbered access to the internet in his or her own room. And time and time again, they are ignored. This is where victims come from.

The next time your child says they are going to their friend’s house, why not go with them and check out the environment into which you are sending them?  They are your responsibility, and you chose that duty when you chose to bring them into this world. Children are curious creatures. It is how we learn about ourselves and life. It is up to us to protect them from the snakes and bears along the path.

Also, this time of year is a good time to point out the computer labs at schools. Do not think for a moment that just because the computer is in school, your child is safe!

I have been in elementary and grade schools where the internet system in the computer labs were completely locked down unless a teacher was there to monitor, and then only certain websites could be accessed.  Unfortunately, I have been in elementary and grade schools where the computer labs were always accessible to students of all ages without the supervision of teachers and with complete access to the internet.

After being permitted to investigate the activity of students online in these more liberal-use environments, I found multiple adult websites in the hard drive’s history, accounts of young students for dangerous sites for pedophile and violent activity like Chan and New Ground, Facebook/MySpace/etc.. profiles of students that their parents didn’t know they had — complete with photos of themselves, the school, their siblings, and other students and names of all…

Therefore, not only was this an issue for the students with such accounts, this also affected other students whose parents believed their children were safe because they didn’t use the internet so carelessly. Children should be taught to never post images of themselves or others, that it isn’t their right to share information about other kids with anyone else.

When you walk through a school to determine where to send your child, ask about the internet service and the restrictions.  If there are no safeguards, explain to the principal/director why your child will not be a student there.

Once enrolled in a school where you feel safe, and even if your child has been a student the previous year, visit during the day to be sure such security measures are, in fact, in place.

Never let anyone tell you that you need an appointment to see your child. I am aware that some schools do not permit parents or guardians on premises during class time because they say it can be a disruption for their child; however, you’re their parent and barring any court ruling — i.e. divorce visitations — no one can keep you from seeing to their safety. If a school has such rules in place that you have to make an appointment and cannot visit the classroom without prior permission, seek education elsewhere. There is no good reason a school would have to keep a parent or other legal guardian from stopping by unannounced to look in on their child. Even if the principal or other employee needs to escort you to the classroom, which is understandable and should be respected, you should still be allowed to pop in to visit.

In my experience volunteering in both public and private schools, the only reason this was a mandatory rule was to keep parents unaware of unorthodox discipline routines and to hide a severe lacking in teaching skills going on in the classrooms.  Never pick a school that seems they have something to hide, especially when it includes keeping you from seeing your own child.

Another thing you’ll want to consider are cellphones that allow internet access. Your child may not have one but their friends or friends of friends may.

There is no 100% guarantee your child will never get online without your knowledge or consent, but you should do what you can with the access out there. Educating them is a valuable weapon for them to use to protect themselves.  Visiting sites like the FBI’s kid-friendly internet danger page, McGruff material on internet safety –which includes how to deal with cyber bullies and what to do when their friend is in trouble on the net — and speaking openly with them about predators goes a long way. Also, teaching a child about their self-worth goes a long way in preventing dangerous trends like sexting and giving their heart over to a stranger.

B. Giving Away Information, Even Without Realizing It

Have you ever participated in one of those social networking site “tagging” games?  You know, the ones that say, “Name your favorite desert…. How old were you when you had your first kiss? … Where do you live?…”  Did you know it is suspected that they were created by either sexual predators or identity thieves?  I’m not sure if there is any way to know exactly where they started, but we do know who has used them and for what: Identity theft, cyber stalking, and especially grooming by sexual predators — not just of children but of adults, as well.  Part 2 of this special Internet Predator post is below.  Please, take a moment to read through it and understand just why such “games” are perfect tools to access your children, and why someone like “Clark” is able to drive right up to the front door of their target.

The best way to avoid revealing personal information is to simply ignore such requests.

Would you walk into a prison yard full of rapists, serial killers, and kidnappers and give them each a handout with your full name, birthday, school or work information, telephone number, hometown, siblings names, pet names, interests, hobbies, etc…? And would you allow your child to do such a thing?  What is the difference when you don’t know who is really asking the questions, or who else may have access to the answers you give?

Do this: Type “pretty girl” or “cute boy” in your search engine and narrow it down for just “Images”.  You can copy any one of those into your computer, make a fake account on a social networking site, and use that photo to say it is you. Better still is if you find an entire album full of that user’s photos. This is how predators pretend to be who they are not.

Online predators steal the identities of careless people across the net posting their personal photos on photo sharing sites. Many times, the owners of the photos even have descriptions underneath that make it easy for the predator to tell a good story to back up their alias. They get your trust this way, by showing you they trust you enough to share all of this, and soon have you telling them all about your life, including how to track you down — even at the grocery store.

Look how many people post their daily activities in there status messages, Twitter, etc… Imagine someone you’ve trusted with all your other information trying to find the perfect time and place to grab you, or your child.

Never forget that grooming parents is what predators do when their target is closely monitored. You may think you are protecting your child by not revealing their information, and you may think the person you are speaking with is only after getting to know you. In reality, they may be going through you to get access to your child. This is what they do when you post your child’s photo as your avatar/profile photo.

It’s like window shopping. They see a pretty child as the profile photo of a parent who is, obviously, not wise to the dangers, and they know this person can be easily fooled into giving them all they need: access to family photos at the very least, information about their children found in blogs and comments and even the profile information section, family outings where the predator can watch from a distance, and private conversations about issues at home the predator can use to earn trust and an emotional bond to mom/dad.

Simply put, no one on the internet should ever be trusted with your personal information, and your child should be made aware of this and understand the dangers.

Internet Predators And The Games They Play

(This post is part of a 2-Part special post on internet safety. Part 1 is above.)

“You’ve been tagged!”

We’ve all seen them. Maybe even received an invitation to participate. I am posting this article to expose them for what they are: Questionnaires for Sexual Predators. No matter who composed the games, online predators are reading kids’ answers and making note of them to find the right victims to harass, stalk, and someday assault.

Kids think they are having fun, sharing about themselves with people their own age just looking for a creative outlet and a place to find a cool friend. The truth of the matter is that this “friend” may actually be a sexual predator.

He has composed the best list of questions to find out the age of his intended target, the name, where they live, and how best to convince them he can be trusted through similar interests.

He has already made a lot of kids believe he is their age by using their language and posting images he stole from another kid’s photo hosting site, or maybe images of his child or niece, nephew, next door neighbor.

Now, he has a whole friends list full of children who believe he is also a child. He posts his “Tagging game” with what his friends believe to be honest answers. Then, he tags his friends. He will first tag the ones he is really interested in, but not too many. He knows the others will follow suit and play the game, or eventually get tagged with his game, themselves. All he has to do is sit back, wait and let his first few victims do the stalking for him.

Once he has what he needs, he will not just use this information for himself. He will pass on this information to other sexual predators so they can find these children, as well.

See, sexual predators don’t work alone. They have a network. They have “rings” of hundreds online and out in the walking world.

There are those members who will scout out the best places to find vulnerable children to take and molest, and pass on the lists of these places to pedophiles in the area.

There are members who visit playgrounds, parks, and school functions and take photographs of children to pass along to other pedophiles and sexual predators.

I have even seen a network where the man acts as a finder. He will take the images, post them on his site, and other pedophiles will tell him who they are interested in. He will either pass along or sell the information to them – like where the image was taken, if the child had any brothers or sisters, if the parents are observant or did they leave their child unattended, and in many cases, the photographer has the home address to give or sell the predator.

Tagging games make all of this much simpler. No work needed for a scout. All he has to do is pretend to be a child playing a game.

I have seen an alarming number of children give out all of their personal information to not only the person who tagged them, but also the entire internet to see. These kids don’t seem to have ever been taught not to give the entire world their full name, address, telephone number, parents’ names, so on and so forth. If someone online asks for this information, they are up to no good. Count on it!

Below are actual games I copied several months ago from a few different sites.  Mind you, not every question is sinister but are meant to make the game seem innocent.

TAG GAME 1:

1. Whats your full name?
2. Whats your age?
3. Height and weight, if known.
4. What is your species?
5. Do you believe in love?
6. Who do you love?
7. Name your best buddies.
8. At what date you were born?
9. Favorite Movies.
10. Do you consider yourself a sexy or cute person?
11. How would you describe yourself?(in a physical and psychological matter?)
12. Who do you hate?
13. What do you hate?
14. Do you think fashion is important in your life?
15. Where do you live?
16. What are your hobbies?
17. Tell us some secret that you have.
18. Favorite Foods.
19. Random Question. Do you think Spam tastes like human flesh?
20. Why did you take this quiz?

TAG GAME 2:

1. YOUR REAL NAME:
2. YOUR GANGSTA NAME: (first 3 letters of real name plus izzle.)
3. YOUR DETECTIVE NAME: (fav color and fav animal)
4. YOUR SOAP OPERA NAME: (middle name, and current street)
5. YOUR STAR WARS NAME: (the first 3 letters of your last name, first 2 letters of your first name, first 3 letters of mom’s maiden name)
6. YOUR SUPERHERO NAME: (2nd favorite color, favorite drink).
7. YOUR IRAQI NAME: (2nd letter of your first name, 3rd letter of your last name, any letter of your middle name, 2nd letter of your moms maiden name, 3rd letter of you dads middle name, 1st letter of a siblings first name, last letter of your moms middle name)
8. YOUR WITNESS PROTECTION NAME: (mothers middle name and fathers name.)
9. YOUR GOTH NAME: (black, and the name of one your pets)

TAGGING GAME 3:

1) Full name:
2) Male/Female:
3) Were you named after anyone?
4) Does your name mean anything?
5) Nickname(s):
6) What do you think you look like… name wise:
7) Date of birth:
8 ) Place of birth and current location:
9) Nationality:
10) Astrological sign:
11) Chinese astrology sign:
12) Religion:
13) What’s your favorite smell?
14) Political Position:
15) What do you prefer to drink in the morning:
16) Hair + eye color:
17) Do you look like anyone famous:
18) What do you look like?
19) Any unusual talents?:
20) Righty, lefty, or ambidextrous?:
21) Gay, straight, bi, or other?:
22) What do you do for a living?:
23) What do you do for fun?:
24) What are your favourite art materials to work with?:
25) What kind of materials would you like to work with?:
26) Have you met your grandparents?:
27) Boyfriend/Girlfriend:
28) Crush:
29) What celebrity would you date if you could?:
30) Current worries?:
31) Favourite online guy/girl(s):
32) Favourite place to be?:
33) Least favorite place to be?:
34) Do you burn or tan?:
35) Ever break a bone?:
36) What is your favourite cereal?:
37) Person you cry with:

Do you have…
38) Any sisters:
39) Any brothers:
40) Any pets:
41) An illness:
42) A pager:
43) A personal phone line:
44) A cell phone:
45) A visible birthmark:
46) A pool or hot tub:
47) A car:

Describe your…
48) Personality:
49) Driving:
50) Your clothing style:
51) Room:
52) What’s missing:
53) School:
54) Bed:
55) Relationship with your parent(s):
56) Do you believe in yourself?:
57) Do you believe in love at first sight?:
58) Consider yourself a good listener?:
59) Have a future dream that you would like to share?:
60) Get along with your parents?:
61) Save your e-mail conversations?:
62) Pray?:
63) Believe in reincarnation?:
64) Brush your teeth twice a day?:
65) Like to talk on the phone?:
66) Like to eat?:
67) Like to exercise?:
68) Like to watch sports?:
69) Sing in the car?:
70) What is a dream that you have all the time?:
71) Dream in colour?:
72) Do you have nightmares?:
73) Sleep with a stuffed animal?:
74) What’s right next to you?:
75) What’s on your favourite mug?:
76) What’s on your mouse pad?:
77) Your favourite flavour of gum:
78) Your brand of deodorant:
79) Your dream honeymoon spot:
80) Your dream husband/wife:
81) What’s hiding in your closet?:
82) Under your bed:
83) The name of one of your closest/best friends:
84) Your bad time of the day:
85) Your worst fear(s):
86) What’s the weather like:
87) Your favourite time of year?:
88) Your favourite holiday?:
89) A material weakness?:
90) The weirdest food or drink that you like:
91) At the top of your “to-do list”?:
92) The hardest thing about growing up:
93) A pet peeve?:
94) Your scariest moment:
95) Your attitude about love?:
96) The funniest or most desperate thing you’ve done to get the attention of the opposite sex?:
97) The worst feeling in the world:
98) The best feeling in the world:
99) Who sent this to you?:
100) 3 people you tag:

TAGGING GAME 4:

Name:
D.O.B.:
Location:
Religion:
Occupation:

APPEARANCE
Hair:
Eyes:
Height:

STYLE
Clothing:
Music:
Make-up:
Body art:

RIGHT NOW
Wearing:
Listening to:
Thinking of:

LAST THING YOU…
Bought:
Ate and drank:
Read:
Watched on TV:

EITHER/OR
Club or houseparty:
Tea or coffee:
Achiever or slacker:
Beer or cider:
Drinks or shots:
Cats or dogs:
Single or taken:
Pen or pencil:
Gloves or mittens:
Food or candy:
Cassette or cd:
Coke or Pepsi:

WHO DO YOU WANT TO…
Kill:
Hear from:
Get really wasted with:
Look like:
Be like:
Avoid:

LAST PERSON YOU… AND WHEN?
Touched:
Talked to:
Hugged:
Instant messaged:
Kissed:

WHERE DO YOU…
Eat:
Dance:
Cry:
Wish you were:

HAVE YOU EVER…
Dated one of your best friends:
Loved somebody so much it makes you cry:
Broken the law:
Ran away from home:
Broken a bone:
Cheated on a test:
Skinny dipped:
Played truth or dare:
Flashed someone:
Mooned someone:
Kissed someone you didn’t know:
Been on a talk/game show: nope
Been in a fight:
Ridden in a fire truck:
Been on a plane:
Come close to dying:
Cheated on your boy/girlfriend:
Gave someone a piggy back/shoulder ride:
Eaten a worm/mud pie:
Swam in the ocean:
Had a nightmare/dream that made you wake up:

WHAT IS…
The most embarrassing CD in your collection:
Your bedroom like?:
Your favorite thing for breakfast:
Your favorite thing for lunch:
Your favorite thing for dinner:
Your favorite Restaurant:

ARE YOU…
A Vegetarian:
A Good Student:
Good At Sports:
Good At Wakeboarding/Snowboarding:
A Good Singer:
A good Actor/Actress:
A deep sleeper:
A Good Dancer:
Shy:
Outgoing:
A good stoyteller:

TAGGING GAME 5:

1. Name:
2. Nickname:
3. Birthday:
4. Place of Birth:
5. Zodiac Sign:
6. Male or Female:
7. Education:
8. Schools you went to:
9. Occupation:
10. Residence:
11. Screen Names:

___Your Appearance___
12. Hair Colour:
13. Hair Length:
14. Eye colour:
15. Best Feature:
16. height:
17. Braces?:
18. Glasses?:
19. Piercing:
20. Tattoos:
21. Righty or Lefty:

___Your ‘Firsts’___
22. First best friend:
23. First Award:
24. First Sport You Joined: :
25. First Pet:
26. First Real Vacation:
27. First Concert:
28. First Love:

___ Favorites___
29. Movie:
30. TV Show:
31. Colour:
32. Rapper:
33. Band:
34. Song Right Now:
35. Friend:
36. Candy:
37. Sport to Play:
38. Restaurant:
39. Favorite brand to wear:
40. Store:
41. School Subject:
42. Animal:
43. Book:
44. Magazine:
45. Shoes:
46. alcoholic beverage:
47b. drug:
48b. article of clothing:
49b. website:
50b. video game:

___Currently___
46. Feeling: :
47. Single or Taken?:
49. Eating:
50. Drinking:
51. Typing:
52. Online?:
53. Listening To:
54. Thinking About:
55. Wanting To:
56. Watching:
57. Wearing:

__________Future__________
58. Want Kids? :
59. Want to be Married:
60. Careers in Mind:
61. Where do you want to live?:
62. Car:

__Which is Better With The Opposite Sex___
63. Hair colour:
64. Hair length:
65. Eye colour:
66. Measurements:
67. Cute or Sexy:
68. Lips or Eyes:
69. Hugs or Kisses:
70. Short or Tall:
71. Easygoing or serious:
72. Romantic or Spontaneous:
74. Sensitive or Loud:
75. Hook-up or Relationship:
77. Trouble Maker or Hesitant One:

___Have you ever______
78. Kissed a Stranger:
79. Had Alcohol:
80. Smoked:
81. Ran Away From Home:
82. Broken a bone:
85. Broken Someones Heart:
86. Broken Up With Someone:
87. Cried When Someone Died:
88. Cried At School:

___Do You Believe In___
89. God:
90. Miracles:
91. Love At First sight:
93. Aliens:
94. Soul Mates:
95. Heaven:
96. Hell:
98. Kissing on The First Date:
99. Horoscopes:

___Answer Truthfully___
100. Is there someone you want but you know you can’t have?

TAGGING GAME 6:

ANSWER TRUTHFULLY…

1. Sun or moon?:
2. Winter or Fall?:
3. Left or right?:
4. Sunny or rainy?:
6. Where do you live?: <——- (Right in the middle of innocent questions, so you’d answer without thought)
8. Do you want to get married?:
9. Do you twirl your spaghetti or cut it?:
10. Do You Cook?:
11. Current mood?:

TAGGING GAME 7:

(Note: This one is horribly wrong and serves several purposes for a predator:  1. Answers these questions: Is the target a prior victim?, Does the target have a problem with underage sex?, Is the target willing to lie to parents?, Can the target be easily coerced?; 2. Desensitizes or seeks to see how desensitized the target is to sex talk and violent sex, 3. Gets the target to talk about sex.  There were a lot of morbid questions on this one. I won’t post all of them as I will not advertise this filth. Here are the parts that suggest rape or child abuse:

It begins like this:

“Just read the ‘offense’ and if you’ve done it, you owe that fine.
Keep going until you’ve read each ‘offense’ and added up your total fine.
Title your response ‘My Bar Tab is$……..’
You don’t have to confess your answers, just the amount of your fine.”
…….
……

Had sex with someone under 21 and you are over 27 — $25
Been raped — $500
Have raped — $200
Had sex with some one under 16 — $300
Had someone come climb in your bedroom window for sex so your parents would not find out — $100
Slapped someone across the face while fucking them– $100
Fucked someone while they were crying– $300 ……”

By asking about breaking any laws or disobeying parents as most tagging games do, the predator is trying to find out of the child is someone willing to do things that won’t make their parents happy, willing to lie and protect bad people.

Of course, inquiring as to secret e-mails tells the predator if the child is good at keeping secrets and if the child likes sneaking around, has a devious personality that will make people not believe them should they ask for help, and has the ability to hide online activity from parents.

Tagging games can be fun. I’ve participated in them, myself. You cannot be ignorant, however, to the dangers on the internet.

Here are some general common sense rules to keep in mind when filling out anything or chatting with anyone online:

KIDS:

1. Never give out personal information on the Internet. Don’t share your real name, where you live, where you go to school or anything about your family. Not your birthday, place of birth, mother’s or father’s names, or pet’s name. In case of identity theft concerns, these are all security questions card companies ask to keep accounts safe from identity thieves. Such people will, also, prey on children. Not for sex but to get information the adults wouldn’t give that enables an identity thief access to financial accounts.

2. The person who claims he is a 13 year old from Cuba or Hawaii may very well be a 43 year old sex offender 10 miles from your house. You do not know who that other person is, and just because they say it, it doesn’t make it the truth.

3. Don’t agree to meet anyone you’ve talked to on line. Tell your parents if an on–line friend wants to get together. Suggesting to the friend that your parents join you will also help you find out if the person is real. If they make excuses why they can’t meet your parents, they have something to hide. Tell your parents right away and contact the police. You aren’t the only intended victim and you will save a lot more kids by speaking up.

4. If you fill out a personal profile that others can read online, don’t write anything that says too much about you. Even if it’s an online site set to private.

5. Don’t write back to flames (people who use bad language or want to get into an argument on line). Cyber bullies love this interaction and will continue to find ways to hurt you, even physically, especially if they get you to reveal a lot of personal information about yourself as you try to boast about your accomplishments to feel superior to the bully. It is nothing more than a mind game to get to you, and it’s a waste of your time as well as a possible danger.

6. Log off immediately if you see or read something that personally upsets you. Tell your parents or a teacher if something like that happens. You have every right to leave a chat or ignore any communication that tries to talk you into doing something you don’t like or in any way makes you feel uncomfortable. If someone gets angry with you for leaving the communication or blocking them, report them! A real friend would not do such a thing and you owe them nothing after they disrespected you.

7. Protect your password. No one should ever ask you for it for any reason.

8. Don’t tell your secrets to someone you just met and don’t know outside of the internet. Secrets can be used against you to know how far this person can go to hurt you. Secrets can also be used to blackmail you later from telling about something they say or do to you. If you need someone to talk to, make sure whatever you say is something you would feel comfortable for your parents to know if ever this person threatens to tell.

9. Never send pictures over the Internet.  You don’t know who will see them or what will be done with them, and there is no way of getting them back.

10. Let your parents know where you go online so they can make sure it isn’t a site set up to get information or hack your computer for your location. Only people with bad intentions have things to hide online.

PARENTS

1. Keep the computer in a family room, kitchen or another area where you can monitor its use. Having an internet hook up in your child’s room is neglectful and dangerous.

2. Limit your child’s time on line, just like you do their television viewing. They need a balance of activities in their lives, and the more they rely on the computer and internet as their entertainment, the more comfortable they will feel talking to strangers about anything.

3. Take time to teach your children how to use the computer and internet responsibly.

4. Discuss the rules with your children. Post them near the computer as a reminder.

5. Ask about your child’s online friends so you know with whom they are communicating. Let your child know that you care about their safety and are watching to be sure they remember your guidelines.

6. Most Internet providers offer parental controls with their service. Use them to keep children away from undesirable sites. Report anything that gets by parental controls and let your Internet service provider know what you expect in terms of keeping kids safe.

7. Learn all you can about blocking and filtering software offered by computer stores. Many can be purchased or downloaded for FREE.

8. Check out the World Wide Web for organizations that represent children’s rights. Do a search using keywords, such as “Internet safety for kids,” and your browser will take you there. Many have newsletters you can download to keep you updated on the latest Internet information.

9. Don’t use the tired old excuse that kids can get internet access anywhere, so there’s nothing you can do. Safety begins at home! If you teach your child what he or she needs to know in life, be open and honest about the dangers out there, help them understand what they can do to stay safe, then you have given them a fighting chance when they aren’t in your presence.

10. Additionally, Morality/Dignity/Self-respect begins at home. If you don’t want your child taking sexually explicit photos of themselves with that camphone you irresponsibly gave them, or webcam you allowed them to use when they close their door to get online, then make sure they know they are not a piece of meat.

Make sure your children know they don’t deserve to be treated like a sexual object for anyone because they are better than that. Let them know that it isn’t just something you don’t like or agree with. Let them know it’s also that you know they deserve to be treated better.

A lot of kids online don’t get praise or acceptance at home. Then they meet someone on the internet via chat, social networking site, or game sites willing to give it to them…as long as they get naked for them or tell them anything they want to know.